We understand that you're facing a challenging situation with your friend. It's important to remember that as Christians, we are called to love and support one another, even when it's difficult. Let's address this situation with prayer and biblical wisdom.
Firstly, it's crucial to remember that our actions and words should reflect the love of Christ in us. As it is written in Colossians 3:12-14 WEB:
"Put on therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, humility, and perseverance; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do. Above all these things, walk in love, which is the bond of perfection."
It's clear that your friend's behavior is not aligning with these principles. When she shares her problems with you but doesn't want to hear yours, she is not showing the kindness and compassion that Christ calls us to. Additionally, her rude response to your comment about a Christmas gift does not reflect the love and forgiveness that should characterize our interactions.
Let's pray for your friend and for your relationship with her:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister in Christ who is facing difficulties in her friendship. Lord, we ask that You soften her friend's heart and help her to see the importance of showing compassion, kindness, and love, just as Christ does for us. Help her friend to understand that a true friend listens and supports, even when it's not convenient or easy.
Lord, we also pray for our sister, that You would give her the strength and wisdom to navigate this situation. Help her to respond with love and forgiveness, even when it's challenging. Guide her words and actions, and help her to be a light that points her friend back to You.
Finally, Lord, we pray that both of them would grow in their relationship with You. Help them to remember that it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to You, Father, and it is only through belief in Jesus Christ that we can be saved. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
It's also important to address the behavior with your friend. Consider speaking to her openly and lovingly about how her actions make you feel. Use this as an opportunity to share the love of Christ and to encourage her to live out her faith more fully. Remember, Matthew 18:15 WEB tells us, "If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother."
Lastly, it is our responsibility as Christians to address these issues in love and humility rather than ignoring them. We must do it in such a way that our love and compassion will shine through and will be a positive witness to everyone we encounter.