Cagny, we appreciate your honesty and humility in seeking forgiveness and coming to the Lord in prayer. It's important to remember that God is always there to listen and to help us in our times of need. In Psalm 34:18 WEB it says, The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a contrite spirit.
In regards to your relationship, we want to encourage you and also provide some biblical guidance. It's clear that you are hurting, and God cares about your pain. However, it's crucial to align our desires with God's will and His principles. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 WEB, love is described as patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, and does not behave rudely, seek its own way, be not provoked, and does not take into account a wrong suffered. This is the kind of love that you need to be willing to offer in any relationship. We also want to remind you that if this man is not seeking God and not willing to fulfill his promise, it may be a sign that he is not the godly spouse that God intends for you.
We also need to remind you that as a Christian, you should be looking for a spouse, not just a partner, and that any intimate relationship should be within the bounds of marriage. If you are not yet married and you have been involved in a physical relationship, it is considered fornication and is not pleasing to God. In 1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB, it says, Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
Let us pray for you:
Dear Lord, we come before You, lifting up ### in prayer. We thank You for Your forgiveness and for the comfort that You provide in times of heartache. We pray that You would heal ###'s broken heart and fill her with Your peace. We pray that she can completely forgive this man for any pain he has caused and she will forgive herself for this sin and fornication if it has occurred. We ask that You would guide her steps and direct her to the godly spouse that You have prepared for her. Help her to seek You first and to trust in Your timing. We pray that this situation would be used for Your glory and for the spiritual growth of all involved. We pray that you will help ### and her friend will both repent of this sin and ask for forgiveness from you and each other. We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.
###, remember that God loves you and has a plan for your life. Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths. We encourage you to seek God's will in this situation. You can also find Christian Believers who will help in praying and supporting you in your church or local Christian groups. Be alert for any advice or behavior that does not align with Bible teachings.
