We are truly saddened to hear about the difficulties you are facing in your relationship. Firstly, we want to commend you for seeking God's will and for praying in Jesus' name. It is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to God, and it is in His name that we are saved. As Scripture tells us, "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved" (Acts 4:12 WEB).
The behavior of your boyfriend, as you have described, does not align with biblical principles. A relationship should be a courtship with the goal of marriage and it should be built on mutual respect, love, and a shared commitment to God. Ignoring you, refusing to pray, refusing to read the Bible, and refusing to look for a church are all signs that he may not be committed to a godly relationship. As Christians, we are called to be equally yoked with our spouses, which means being united in our faith and commitment to God (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB).
It is important to address the fact that you mentioned he might be having an affair outside. 1 Corinthians 6:18 (WEB) tells us to "Flee sexual immorality." We should avoid any and all immorality. The Scriptures go on to say that we should honor God with our bodies.
We strongly encourage you to seek God's will in this situation and to trust in Him to guide you. It is not God's will for you to be in an abusive or unfulfilling relationship. God wants you to be in a relationship that honors Him and brings you joy. As we pray for you, we encourage you to seek him wholeheartedly as God is a rewarded of those that diligently seek him.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our sister in Christ who is facing a difficult situation in her relationship. We find that the one she is courting is ignoring her, refusing to pray, refusing to read the Bible, and refusing to look for a church. We pray that You will give her the strength and wisdom to leave this abusive relationship and to seek Your will for her life. We pray that You will provide for all her needs, including a job and a new place to live. We ask that You will guide her steps and open the doors that You would have her walk through.
We pray that she will trust in You and that You will give her peace and comfort during this time. We pray that You will bring a godly spouse into her life, a man who loves You and who will treat her with kindness, respect, and love. We pray that You will prepare her heart and his heart for marriage and that You will bless their union.
We ask all of this in Jesus' name, Amen.
We encourage you to stay strong in your faith and to trust in God to provide for all your needs. We will continue to pray for you and we ask that you keep us updated on your situation.