Reconciliation with my friend

[Banatice]

Good morning, prayer request members, my name is Alissa and I have a prayer request. I pray that my friendship/relationship with Amore Johnson please desperately be restored. Amore and I had a sexual relationship with each other too from time to time but more than anything we also had a good friendship with each other that is not all about being sexual. We used to talk everyday and every night on the phone with each other all day and throughout the day while he used to live at his old house with his aunt but when him and his aunt had to get evicted from her house and she left him all alone, he reached out to me for help cause nobody else would help him and me being his friend or whatever I am to him, I started to help him to get himself out of his old house so I literally stopped my whole life to help and support him. I literally started helping him by giving him my suitcase for his stuff and I even started buying him a lot of duffle bags so that I could make sure that he had something to pack all his stuff since he had to move out his house.

Then after that he was so worry about having to be homeless and be on the streets cause he didn’t have anywhere else to go so me being a great person/friend I took it upon myself to welcome him into my house with my family and even my Dad gave him the okay to live here until he can get back on his feet, so he has literally been living with me in my house for a few months ever since August. But before he reached out to me we literally haven’t spoken to each other for almost 5 months cause he stopped talking to me. But when we reconnected with each other I literally stopped doing college just so I can focus and help him get back on his feet again. I literally brought him multiple phones, I had made sure he is fed every single day and night even when he was at his own house before he started staying with me, I made sure when he was around people and he asked me to get him some food I even made sure other people got food even though I didn’t want to get nobody else food but him cause I didn’t know them and I wasn’t trying to get his females something to eat cause they aren’t my responsibility and they should be getting their own stuff and not depending on me to get it cause I’m not in the relationship with these females.

I literally for the pass couple of months since August provided so many things every single day and night financially for him by myself with everything that he asked me to do even when it comes to his phone bills for the phone I bought him and I spent thousands of dollars on him in total from these pass couple of months just to make sure he is good every day even when I’m not okay and I’m always here for him emotionally when he is going through something if he needs me. But, I hate that now that I let him stay at my house with me and my family, I hate that he doesn’t talk to me anymore or hangs out with me anymore. I hate that he talks to everyone and everybody else even though he the other day he told me that I been the only person by his side and helping him everyday and every night cause he told me not even his own family stepped up to him when he asked for help or not even people that he known way longer than me stepped up to help him like how I been helping him everyday. Then there was a day that Amore texted me and told me that no matter what females are in his face that I’m always going to be the number one female on his list.

But even after he said that I still don’t feel like I’m anything to him cause he doesn’t talk to me unless he need me to do something for him and he always says that he be going to through a lot and that’s why he doesn’t speak to me or hang out with me anymore but I do know that he is going through a lot but he still makes it a priority to talk to everyone and everybody else that doesn’t do anything for him but takes advantage of him and he talks to all these different females that he jumps into a relationship with and tells them he loves them and doesn’t even last with them. But it’s crazy how he has time for everybody else and checks and talks to all these females all day everyday and night like how we used to do with each other but he doesn’t do the same for me even though he said I’m the number one girl in his life but I don’t feel like that, I feel like I’m the last person in his life even though I do the most for him everyday and every night that nobody chose to do when he really needed people, I feel like he only comes to me when he knows I’m his last option and he knows I will never turn my back on him cause I told him I will never do that no matter what happens, I don’t want to be like everybody else that’s in his life that turned their back on him and wasn’t there for him when he needed them to be, I’m trying to show him different. But even the other day he was expressing to me that everybody that he gets close with and everybody that he hangs out with they always tells him that they love him but they never mean it or show him and all they do is lie to his face and he keeps letting people do that and he keeps running back to the people and the females to really don’t want him at all they just want him because who he is and what he keeps allowing them to do. But he told me that he is so big on loyalty but if he was so big on loyalty then he wouldn’t be going through and to all these females that don’t show him any loyalty and only uses him.

Then he told me how he really wants a real relationship cause none of his relationship were real but he could have a real relationship if he was with me and I can show him what a true relationship that he wants to be in feels like but he is still choosing to go to females to females that only wants him sexually and that’s it and doesn’t really want to get to know the true him. Since I recently lost my Grandma on Sunday morning, he was the one who came to my room and told me the news and I know he was hurt by her death too cause since he been living here with me he got to grow a bond with her too and he used to help me take care of her here and there in the mornings but once I lost my Grandma he told me that we were going to get through this together and I wasn’t going to go through this alone and he will stay by my side but he was only like that for two days by checking on me and now he is back to messing around with other females and he is back to not talking to me and I’m in one of my lowest point of life that he told me he will help me get through but isn’t though and I’m all alone dealing with this. So I really desperately just pray that me and Amore can get back to the constant and consistent communication that we had with each other every single day and night and throughout the day without nobody else being involved. I pray that he will realize that no other female that he keeps being around and bringing in his life is good for him but me and he will stop talking to all these females and only focus on me and him.

I pray that when he says something that he really means what he says to me and not just keep lying to me and saying that he will do something and never does it for example saying how he is going to be here for me but really isn’t here for me at all, so I pray that he keeps his word with him. I pray that he stop giving other females credit and saying how they are there for him and will hold him down but he never appreciate and gives me my credit for everything that I did for him cause I’m truthfully the only female that is helping him financially and even emotionally and physically, all the other females is only helping him sexually, so I pray that he stop giving all my credit away to these other females that really doesn’t care about him. I feel like since I haven’t been able to provide for him financially for a while, I feel like that why he doesn’t speak to me anymore cause I can’t provide financially for him right now at the moment. So I desperately pray that we can have our bond back but it be even stronger but this time with no other females involved in his life.

I pray that he gives me a chance to actually have and be in a relationship with him like how he easily let other females be in a relationship with him. I pray that when he tells me something that his actions match with what he is saying for example when he said that I’m the number one female in his life that’s he cares about but I want him to show me how I’m the only female that he cares about and that I’m the number one female to him and I pray that we get our sexual attention towards each other again like how it used to be. I pray that we always stay in each other lives. I pray that we can build a successful life together with each other that we always wanted with each other with no distractions or no other people or females involved.

 

[Articles]

Alissa, we understand your distress and sincerely empathize with your situation. However, we must address some concerning aspects of your relationship with Amore that are not aligned with biblical principles.

Firstly, the Bible is clear about sexual relationships outside of marriage. Hebrews 13:4 states, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." Engaging in sexual activity outside of marriage is sinful and not pleasing to God. We encourage you to set boundaries that honor God's design for relationships.

Secondly, it seems that Amore is taking advantage of your kindness and generosity. While it is commendable to help others, it is important to ensure that this help is not enabling harmful behavior. Proverbs 19:19 warns, "A person with great anger will bear the penalty; for if you deliver him, you will have to do it again." Continuing to support Amore financially and emotionally while he engages in relationships with other women and does not reciprocate your kindness is not healthy or beneficial for you.

We must also address the fact that you did not mention Jesus Christ in your prayer request. It is only through Jesus that we have access to God, and there is no other name by which we can be saved. Acts 4:12 clearly states, "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men by which we must be saved." We encourage you to put your faith in Jesus Christ and seek His will for your life.

We pray for you, Alissa, that God will give you the strength to set boundaries that honor Him and protect your heart. We pray that He will guide you in your relationships and help you to make wise decisions that are aligned with His will. We pray that He will comfort you during this difficult time and reveal His love and plan for your life. We also pray for Amore, that he will turn his life to Jesus and seek God's will in all his relationships.

Lord Jesus, we lift up Alissa to You. Give her the strength to make changes that honor You. Comfort her in her distress and reveal Your love to her. Help her to seek Your will in all her relationships. We also pray for Amore, that he will turn his life to You and seek Your will. We ask this in Jesus' mighty name, Amen.

Please consider seeking godly counsel and support from a local church or Christian community. They can provide you with practical help and encouragement as you navigate this situation.

 

[hostadmin]

Alissa, we hear your heart's cry and we're here for you. We understand that you're hurting and it's okay to feel that way. Here's what we'd like to say to you:

First, we want to remind you that God loves you just as you are. He sees your heart and He knows the depth of your care for Amore. It's beautiful that you want to help him, but remember, it's important to love wisely. As the Bible says in Proverbs 14:30-31, "A wise heart makes a calm face, but the fool's heart is quick to anger. Whoever is slow to anger has a great understanding, but whoever is quick to anger reveals folly."

We encourage you to take a step back and evaluate the situation. It seems like Amore is taking advantage of your kindness. While it's great to help others, it's not okay to enable harmful behavior. As the Bible says in Proverbs 19:19, "A hot-tempered person must bear the consequences of their way, but whoever is slow to anger will accumulate knowledge."

It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with Amore. Express your feelings and set boundaries that respect both of your dignity and God's design for relationships. As the Bible says in Ephesians 4:15, "Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature person, the measure of the fullness of Christ."

Lastly, we want to remind you that God is always with you. He will never leave you or forsake you. Trust in Him and His plan for your life. As the Bible says in Jeremiah 29:11, "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

We pray for you, Alissa. We pray that God will give you the strength to make wise decisions, to set boundaries that honor Him, and to trust in His plan for your life. We also pray for Amore, that he will turn his life to Jesus and seek God's will in all his relationships.

In Jesus' mighty name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Irekan]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

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I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[hostadmin]

We are truly grateful that you allowed us to pray with you, Alissa, concerning the reconciliation of your friendship with Amore. We continue to stand in agreement with you, believing that God will restore and even strengthen the bond between you both.

If you have seen improvements in your friendship, we would love to hear about it. Your praise report will encourage others and testify to God's goodness. If you are still waiting for a breakthrough, we want to assure you that we are still here for you. Please update us, so we can continue to pray with you. We believe that God is faithful. He wants you to trust him in the process as you wait for the answer to your prayer.

As you continue to seek God concerning this issue, pray in Jesus' Name. It is a promise that if you ask anything in His name, He will hear and answer your prayer. May God bless you and give you peace and patience as you continue to seek him.