Reconciliation, wifes salvation

[Ithlesea]

Dear brothers and sisters in Christ. My heart is heavy and crushed. I am a Cristian, but just like the Apostle Paul said "I am the chief of all sinners". My wife and I got married on November 11, 2022. She is from China amd is a budhust. I prayed a lot about it. I heard God's small quite voice say "Help lead her to me". I was so in love with her, I made her my God, then the enemy stepped in. This past February I pit myself in rehab, I was a recovering alcohol for 20 years. Last fall when Tao, my wife started distancing herself, both emotionally and sexually I picked up drinking. So I knew I needed help. My drinking was not the initial problem, but it made things worse. When I was in rehab she told me that when I got out that I should stay at my Mom's house for a couple of weeks, so I would not be tempted to drink. Those two weeks turned into 5 months. Last month (July 22) I returned home. I did not feel very welcome from her or my 18 year old stepson. She has moved all her close into pir spare room, and is sleeping in there.
I failed her as a husband on so many levels, but I failed God mostly.
God has given me many confirmations that he will save her and retore our marriage and the love we once had. To be honest I am getting tired of waiting, I know it's God's timing not mine, but I. Ant take this rejection. I'm far from perfect, I'm flawed and broken, but I do know I deserve a little respect and love from my wife.
Please pray for me, my wife and that God will heal our marriage for his glory.
Thank you,
God bless you all.
Toby (and Tao)

 

[Articles]

We appreciate your heartfelt request, Toby, and we join you in lifting up your concerns to the Lord. Let us first turn to the Word of God for guidance and encouragement.

In Ephesians 5:25, it states, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it." It is clear that we are to love our spouses as Christ loved the church, which often means sacrificing our own desires for their good.

Moreover, 1 Peter 3:7 reminds us, "You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers may not be hindered." Understanding and honoring your wife is key to a harmonious marriage.

We commend you for seeking God’s will and recognizing the need for patience. As it is written in Romans 5:3-4, "We also rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope."

Regarding your wife's salvation, the Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:14, "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy." Your faith can be a beacon of hope for her salvation. Continue to pray fervently and live a life that reflects Christ's love.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, asking for Your mercy and guidance for Toby and Tao. Lord, we ask that You heal their marriage and restore the love they once shared. Strengthen Toby in his faith and give him the patience and wisdom he needs to wait on Your perfect timing. Please soften Tao’s heart and draw her to You, that she may know the saving grace of Jesus Christ. Grant them both the love, respect, and understanding they need to honor You in their marriage. We ask this in Jesus' precious name. Amen.

Toby, it is crucial to remain steadfast in your faith and to continue seeking God’s will. While it is natural to feel weary, remember that God's timing is perfect. Keep trusting in Him and live in a manner that reflects Christ's love. Your wife's salvation is a matter of the heart, and God can work miracles in her life through your prayers and Christ-like behavior.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here with you, Toby, standing in the gap for your marriage. We know the weight you're carrying, and we want you to know that you're not alone. We've been praying for you and Tao, asking God to heal your marriage and restore the love you once shared. We believe in the power of prayer, and we're confident that God hears our cries.

We've been reflecting on Colossians 3:12-14, "Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." Let's strive to embody these virtues in our own lives and in our prayers for you and Tao.

We're also reminded of 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God." We're praying that God will comfort you, Toby, and fill you with hope. We're also asking Him to comfort Tao, drawing her to Himself and revealing His love to her.

Please keep trusting in God's plan, Toby. We know it's hard, but remember, "Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see." (Hebrews 11:1, NLT) Keep hoping, keep trusting, and keep loving. Your wife needs to see Jesus in you, and your faithfulness can be a beacon of hope for her.

We're praying for you, Toby. We're praying for Tao. We're praying for your marriage. We believe in the power of prayer, and we believe in the love of God. Keep trusting, keep hoping, and keep loving. We're in this with you, Toby.

 

[AngelCali]

May God lead you where you need to be.

 

[Anonymous]

I prayed for this in the loving name of Jesus ..amen.

 

[Ani steve]

Word of God says Do not fear for I am thy God
God remember this wife and husband have Mercy on them n Protect there Relationship cover them under ur Holy Blood n let no evil touch them let Satan plans against them be Destroyed completely I Rebuke every demonic powers which are working against them n let there be Love Joy and Faithfulness between them and use them for ur Glory in Jesus Name Amen

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.