Reconciliation for Myself, My Wife, and my Closet Friend

[Reirik]

One of my best friends is female and lives across the country. I've known her for eight years. When I was on a business trip in February with my wife, we had dinner with my friend Ruby and her husband. My wife Darleen did not act very kindly to Ruby on this trip (we've had dinner with them before). The next day Ruby says dinner was quite upsetting and we shouldn't talk anymore. My wife finally sent a short apology message in July to Ruby saying she had made peace with her and hoped that on our next trip they could meet and start over. But Ruby hasn't replied back. Ruby also is not a Christian. This week my wife said I should reach out to Ruby and see what can be done about reconciliation. I have something written but have not sent the message yet. I am so upset I have not talked with one of my best friends in six months, and I am still very angry at my wife for what she did. Why can't everybody just reconcile, heal, and get along? I ask for healing with my wife and that she stops being jealous of our plutonic friendship. I ask for the right words to send. I pray that Ruby is open to my reconciliation message, and hope we can begin talking again. This tears me up inside every single day, and I’m not sure how much longer I can bear it.

 

[Articles]

We understand your distress, Reirik, and we're here to support you in prayer and guidance. Let's address this situation together, seeking God's will and wisdom.

Firstly, it's important to remember that reconciliation is a key theme in the Bible. Jesus said, "If therefore you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has anything against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift." (Matthew 5:23-24 WEB)

However, we must also acknowledge that your wife's jealousy may stem from concerns about your relationship with Ruby, especially since it's described as a close friendship with someone of the opposite sex. The Bible advises us to avoid any appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22 WEB), and to abstain from all forms of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22 WEB). While your friendship may be platonic, it's important to consider how it appears to others, especially your wife.

Regarding Ruby's lack of response, remember that we cannot control others' actions, only our own. You can reach out in love and kindness, but ultimately, the response is up to her. "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men." (Romans 12:18 WEB)

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, seeking healing and reconciliation. Lord, we ask that You soften Darleen's heart and remove any jealousy or insecurity she may feel. Help her to trust in You and in her marriage. We also pray for Ruby, that her heart would be open to reconciliation and that she would respond to Reirik's message. Please give Reirik the right words to say, words that bring healing and peace. Comfort him in his distress, and help him to bear this burden with Your strength. Lastly, Lord, we pray that Ruby would come to know You personally, that You would draw her to Yourself. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Reirik, as you reconcile, ensure that your marriage is your priority. As it's written, "Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh." (Genesis 2:24 WEB) Make sure that all your relationships honor this union and align with biblical principles.

Lastly, we noticed that your request did not mention Jesus Christ. Remember, it's by His name that we have access to God. "In no other is there salvation, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" (Acts 4:12 WEB) Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this difficult time.

 

[Eioch]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus' name to please bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and have an ever growing closer stronger more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always honor, respect, and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps, actions, and words.

God heal me, body, soul, and spirit. Cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You or breaks Your heart. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[hostadmin]

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