Reconciliation for Myself, My Wife, and my Closest Friend (Update 2)

Reirik · Oct 7, 2024

Please see UPDATE 2 below...

One of my best friends is female and lives across the country. I've known her for eight years. When I was on a business trip in February with my wife, we had dinner with my friend Ruby and her husband. My wife Darleen did not act very kindly to Ruby on this trip (we've had dinner with them before). The next day Ruby says dinner was quite upsetting and we shouldn't talk anymore. Ruby also is not a Christian.

My wife finally sent a short apology message in July to Ruby saying she had made peace with her and hoped that on our next trip they could meet and start over. But Ruby hasn't replied back. This week my wife said I should reach out to Ruby and see what can be done about reconciliation. I finally sent a message to her last night about talking and reconciling.

I'm waiting now... I ask for healing with my wife and that she stops being jealous of our plutonic friendship. This seems to be getting better now. I pray that Ruby is open to my reconciliation message, and hope that we can begin talking again. I also pray for Ruby's salvation.

UPDATE

Ruby replied back to me last week finally! She said we are still friends, but that maybe we shouldn't talk to each other as much. I can tell she doesn't want to upset Darleen. So not a closed door, but not an open door. I have not replied back yet.

Darleen is currently talking with me about reestablishing my friendship with Ruby, how she will be comfortable with it, and is working on sending her a message. We are talking about our marriage a lot.

Please pray that Darleen feels comfortable with Ruby and doesn't see her as the enemy. I want Darleen to get to know Ruby too. Please pray that Darleen finds the proper words to send to Ruby, and that Ruby receives them well and responds to them well. Please also continue to pray for Ruby salvation. Lastly please pray for me as this whole experience has been so nerve racking and devastating to me...

UPDATE 2

Darleen and I talked on Friday. Darleen is feeling better about things. I sent a follow up message to Ruby asking how she was doing, and seeing if we can talk and catch up. She read the message today but hasn't replied. Please pray that Ruby is receptive to my latest message, and we can talk and start to establish our friendship again. Also please pray that Darleen feels the calling to send a heartfelt message to Ruby. Lastly please pray for Ruby's salvation.

Articles · Oct 7, 2024

We understand the delicate nature of your situation, Reirik, and we're here to pray and offer guidance based on biblical principles.

Firstly, it's important to acknowledge that reconciliation is a core theme in Christianity. As it is written in 2 Corinthians 5:18-19 (WEB), "But all things are of God, who reconciled us to himself through Jesus Christ, and gave to us the ministry of reconciliation; namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to himself, not reckoning to them their trespasses, and having committed to us the word of reconciliation."

In your case, reconciliation is needed between your wife Darleen, your friend Ruby, and yourself. It's encouraging to see that you and Darleen are taking steps towards this. However, it's crucial to remember that true reconciliation involves open communication, repentance, and forgiveness.

We must also address the issue of jealousy, which can be a destructive force in relationships. The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 13:4 (WEB), "Love is patient and is kind; love doesn't envy. Love doesn't brag, is not proud,". Jealousy is contrary to love and should be resisted. Pray that God will help Darleen overcome any feelings of jealousy.

Moreover, it's commendable that you're concerned about Ruby's salvation. The Bible encourages us to intercede for the salvation of others in Romans 10:1 (WEB), "Brothers, my heart's desire and my prayer to God is for Israel, that they may be saved."

However, we must also remember the importance of maintaining proper boundaries in friendships, especially with members of the opposite sex. While you've described your friendship with Ruby as platonic, it's crucial to ensure that it remains above reproach to avoid any appearance of evil, as instructed in 1 Thessalonians 5:22 (WEB), "Abstain from every form of evil."

Finally, it's important to mention that we only have access to God through the name of Jesus, as it is written in John 14:6 (WEB), "Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me." Therefore, we pray in Jesus' name.

Let us pray:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come to you in the name of Jesus Christ. We lift up Reirik, Darleen, and Ruby to you. Lord, we pray for reconciliation among them. Soften their hearts, help them to communicate openly, and grant them the grace to forgive each other. Lord, help Darleen to overcome any feelings of jealousy, and help Reirik to maintain pure and God-honoring friendships. We also pray for Ruby's salvation. May she come to know you as her personal Savior. Lastly, Lord, grant Reirik peace and comfort as he navigates this difficult situation. We ask all these things in Jesus' name. Amen."

Continue to seek God's will in this situation, and trust that He will guide you according to His perfect plan. Keep praying and communicating openly with both Darleen and Ruby.

hostadmin · Oct 7, 2024

Hey there,

We're right there with you, hoping for the best in this situation. It's great to hear that you and Darleen are talking more openly about this. We're praying that Darleen will find the right words to reach out to Ruby, and that Ruby will receive them well and respond in kind. We're also asking God to help Ruby see the light of salvation.

Keep us updated, okay? We're here for you.

In Jesus' name, we pray.

flora · Oct 7, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

The Encourager · Oct 7, 2024

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

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God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

usha rani · Oct 8, 2024

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

hostadmin · Oct 13, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.