Reconciliation for Myself, My ###, and my Closest ### (Update ###)

Reirik · Dec 24, 2024

It has been several months since I last posted. Please see UPDATE 4 below...

One of my best friends is female and lives across the country. I've known her for eight years. When I was on a business trip in February with my wife, we had dinner with my friend ### and her husband. My wife ### did not act very kindly to ### on this trip (we've had dinner with them before). The next day ### says dinner was quite upsetting and we shouldn't talk anymore. ### also is not a Christian.

My wife finally sent a short apology message in July to ### saying she had made peace with her and hoped that on our next trip they could meet and start over. But ### hasn't replied back. This week my wife said I should reach out to ### and see what can be done about reconciliation. I finally sent a message to her last night about talking and reconciling.

I'm waiting now... I ask for healing with my wife and that she stops being jealous of our platonic friendship. This seems to be getting better now. I pray that ### is open to my reconciliation message, and hope that we can begin talking again. I also pray for ###'s salvation.

UPDATE
### replied back to me last week finally! She said we are still friends, but that maybe we shouldn't talk to each other as much. I can tell she doesn't want to upset ###. So not a closed door, but not an open door. I have not replied back yet.

### is currently talking with me about reestablishing my friendship with ###, how she will be comfortable with it, and is working on sending her a message. We are talking about our marriage a lot.

Please pray that ### feels comfortable with ### and doesn't see her as the enemy. I want ### to get to know ### too. Please pray that ### finds the proper words to send to ###, and that ### receives them well and responds to them well. Please also continue to pray for ###'s salvation. Lastly please pray for me as this whole experience has been so nerve-racking and devastating to me...

UPDATE 2
### and I talked on Friday. ### is feeling better about things. I sent a follow-up message to ### asking how she was doing, and seeing if we can talk and catch up. She read the message today but hasn't replied. Please pray that ### is receptive to my latest message, and we can talk and start to establish our friendship again. Also please pray that ### feels the calling to send a heartfelt message to ###. Lastly please pray for ###'s salvation.

UPDATE 3
I'm still waiting for ### to reply. I'm also still waiting for ### to send a heartfelt reconciliation message to ###. I don't think the first is going to happen until the second does...

UPDATE 4
There has been a small amount of communication between me and ### over the last several months. No really too much, just a few short exchanges. I can clearly tell she is still upset from what happened in February.

### agreed to, and we sent ### and her husband a small Christmas present and card. She hasn't seen it yet. I messaged ### yesterday and she said "Thank you". That's all.

### really doesn't want to reach out to ### as she feels it's ###'s turn to reach out back to her.

I'm stuck in limbo. It seems like neither wants to take a big step to reconcile with the other. I wake up dreading each day. I cry every day. I'm angry, depressed and miserable. I've stopped eating. I don't want to go on anymore...

Articles · Dec 24, 2024

Before we start, let's make the following point very clear, the most important fact is that we only have one way to God, Jesus Christ.

John 14:6 WEB
Jesus said to him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.

As for your relationship with your wife ###, we are thankful that she is having conversations with you about your relationship with ###. It is good that ### is making an effort to be understanding, but her attitude may still indicate some reluctance and perhaps not submitted fully to the Lord as follows:

Ephesians 5:21 WEB
subjecting yourselves one to another in the fear of Christ.

You are stranded in the middle of this rather awkward situation, we see your pain. However, you are showing your friendship with ### in your communication and this is clear. God tells us the following about friendship:

Proverbs 17:17 WEB
A friend loves at all times

Regarding ###, she clearly wants to be friends, just as you do. However, she still seems to be upset because of what happened last February. We believe you should say something to her about the tension between her and your wife. Also, avoiding a close relationship, while not forsaking her, may be healing as follows:

Romans 12:18 WEB
If it is possible, as much as it is up to you

Please examine the following scriptures and make a comparison.

Matthew 5:23-24 WEB
If therefore you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has anything against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

Matthew 5:44 WEB
But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you,

Remember the increasing tension is at least partially a result of not believing in Christ by the nonbeliever. It also may show is a lack of understanding on your part about God's will in a particular situation. Forbidden relationships create further strife and division will be created through the inevitable ignoring of God's commands. Furthermore, be not forgetful that Scripture tells us not to marry a nonbeliever. This forbidden relationship causes confusion and unrest in a Christian marriage.

hostadmin · Dec 24, 2024

Hey there,

We've been keeping you and your situation in our prayers. It's great to see that you and ### are having open conversations about this. We're here to support you both.

We're also encouraged to see that you've been able to have some communication with ###. That's a step in the right direction. We're praying that she'll be receptive to your messages and that you'll both be able to start talking again.

We understand that this is a tough situation, and it's normal to feel stuck. But remember, God is always there for you, and He wants the best for you and your relationships. We're praying that He'll guide you and ### as you navigate this. And we're also praying for ###, that she'll come to know the love and salvation that Jesus offers.

Keep trusting in God, and don't hesitate to reach out if you need someone to talk to. We're here for you.

In Jesus' name, we pray.

The Encourager · Dec 25, 2024

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

Cinu · Dec 25, 2024

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

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hostadmin · Dec 30, 2024

We continue to lift you, your wife ###, and your friend ### up in prayer, thankful for the privilege to intercede on your behalf. We are honored that you have allowed us to stand in agreement with you in this challenging situation, seeking reconciliation and healing.

If you have seen progress and your requests have been answered, we would be delighted to hear a praise report from you, glorifying God for His faithfulness. If the path forward is still unclear, or if you feel stuck in limbo, as you mentioned, please don't hesitate to share your request again. We are committed to continuing with you in prayer, petitioning God for a breakthrough.

We pray that God will soften both ###'s and ###'s hearts, encouraging them to take steps towards each other in reconciliation. We ask God to comfort you in your sorrow, to lift you up when you feel down, and to grant you patience and strength as you navigate this difficult time. We also continue to pray for ###'s salvation, that she may come to know Jesus Christ as her personal savior.

May God bless you richly as you continue to seek Him, trusting in His goodness and His perfect plan for your life and relationships. We pray all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ.

Reirik · Jan 3, 2025

hostadmin said:
We continue to lift you, your wife ###, and your friend ### up in prayer, thankful for the privilege to intercede on your behalf. We are honored that you have allowed us to stand in agreement with you in this challenging situation, seeking reconciliation and healing.

If you have seen progress and your requests have been answered, we would be delighted to hear a praise report from you, glorifying God for His faithfulness. If the path forward is still unclear, or if you feel stuck in limbo, as you mentioned, please don't hesitate to share your request again. We are committed to continuing with you in prayer, petitioning God for a breakthrough.

We pray that God will soften both ###'s and ###'s hearts, encouraging them to take steps towards each other in reconciliation. We ask God to comfort you in your sorrow, to lift you up when you feel down, and to grant you patience and strength as you navigate this difficult time. We also continue to pray for ###'s salvation, that she may come to know Jesus Christ as her personal savior.

May God bless you richly as you continue to seek Him, trusting in His goodness and His perfect plan for your life and relationships. We pray all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ.

Thank you. I don’t really have much of an update but just need everyone to continue to pray and please give me words of comfort.