Ilorear, we stand with you in prayer regarding your relationship, asking that the Lord Jesus Christ intervenes and guides you both according to His will. We are reminded in Romans 8:28 (WEB) "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose.
However, we want to ensure that this relationship aligns with biblical principles. As believers we are instructed in Jesus name God 2 Corinthians 6:14.As believers are embassadors of Christ we are instructed in our relationships to only be with fellow Christians with the goal of marriage. Continuing 2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB "Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" If your relationship is not aligned with these principles, we strongly encourage you to reevaluate and seek God's will for your life. This is also why boyfriend and girlfriend should call their relationship a courtship since it should be for the purpose of finding a spouse.
What is the best way to have relationship problems the easiest way is to do things outside of Gods will and design for marriage. If you are already living together prior to getting married you will experience God's blessedassurance on the marriage. You should also separate immediately even if you stop living together but continue the courtship. You could also be already experiencing problems having sex rather than waiting until marriage. 1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. This should be addressing both fornication and adultry. Instead, follow 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 (WEB) "For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don't know God". There are many things you can do to put up safeguards against sexual lust and fornication. The website peacemaker ministries has helpful guidelines on the internet. That being said if there is any sin of this nature or any sin revealed, unconfessed, unforsaken, and unrepentent that you need to discuss with your boyfried and God. We all are sinful and fall short of God's glory. Romans 3:23.
Jesus Warns in Matthew 5:28 (WEB) but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. It's best to deal with lust early. See Job 31:1 I have made a covenant with my eyes. How then could I look at a virgin?. The point here is not only should we not be actively lustfully looking at women or men but also we need to control our eyes about what we see or look at.
We believe that God is faithful and just and will forgive any sin confessed. 1 John 1:9 But when our heart condemns us God is greater than our heart and knows everything. 1 John 3:20.
Flee all known sin and temptations. For some that can mean considering how you can make a clean getaway from someone in your household leading you to sin romantically or otherwise. This would be discussed with a counselor or mentor at church to prevent falling into sin. This maneuvering can get complicated and you should get assistance.
We all should Psalms 139:23-24 Search me Oh God and know my heart; try me and know my anxieties. See in me any wicked way and lead me in the way everlasting. You could do this with the assistance of a psalmist priest or pastor from your church.
We join you in the agreement in prayer that James 5:16 the effectual fervent prayer of the righteous avails much. Therefore confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed.
We hope that Jesus comes soon. Revelation 21:4 (WEB). Help us now to meet in the clouds Lord Jesus in the Rapture. Matthew 16:27 WEB
at the vanishing away of the sky, the Son of Man coming in his Kingdom. We believe this speaks of the beginning of the Rapture of Christians worldwide. Revelation 4:1 WEB the first voice that I had heard speaking with me like a trumpet; saying, Come up here, and I will show you what must happen after this. Therefore comfort one another with these words. Because you did not know the Exact hour of Jesus return, Live and be ready for him to come. Matthew 25:12 WEB. Maranatha Lord Jesus.
Let's pray together with My Lord Jesus Christ. Father, we come before You, lifting up SOul and their relationship to You. We ask that You intervene Lord revealing anything not aligned with Your will. Provide guidance, wisdom, and discernment as they seek You. Protect them from fornication and temptation, helping them to flee from adultry and sexual immorality, and draw them closer to You and each other according to Your will. Reconcile them with one another and be a light to the people and the world in Jesus name. Amen.
We advise you both to pursue this relationship with intent for marriage if you have not already agreed. Flee fornication and pursue marriage which is honorable to all and then undefiled marriage bed.
If this sex before marriage is occurring and is unrepentant this may also become a matter of church discipline and be sure to catch this early.
Please seek to understand these concepts may agree with them and then seek to align your thinking with God.