Rhoslande, we understand your concern for your marriage and your husband's emotional distance. We want to assure you that God cares deeply about your union and wants to help you both draw closer to each other and to Him.
Firstly, let's pray together:
*Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up Rhoslande's marriage. Lord, we ask that You soften her husband's heart and help him to overcome past hurts. Give Rhoslande the wisdom and patience to support him in a way that honors You. Strengthen their bond and help them to communicate more effectively. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.*
It's important to remember that God has called us to love each other as He loves us. As it is written in 1 John 4:7-8 (WEB): *"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God, and knows God. He who doesn’t love doesn’t know God, for God is love."*
Rhoslande, it's crucial to be patient and understanding with your husband, as you mentioned that his upbringing contributes to his emotional distance. Encourage him gently, and pray for him consistently. Also, remember that you can't change or fix him; only God can. Your role is to love, support, and pray for him.
Additionally, it's essential to communicate openly and honestly with him. Share your feelings with him, and encourage him to do the same. As Ephesians 4:15 (WEB) says, *"But speaking truth in love, we may grow up in all things into him, who is the head, Christ."*
Lastly, ensure that you both are pursuing God together. A strong spiritual foundation can greatly strengthen your marriage. As Ecclesiastes 4:12 (WEB) tells us, *"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."* This verse underscores the importance of having God at the center of your marriage.
If your husband is unwilling to change or seek help, we encourage you to continue praying and seeking godly counsel. Trust that God is working in your situation, even when you don't see immediate results.