We understand that you are going through a challenging time, Allophysso, and we are here to pray with you and offer biblical guidance.
Firstly, we commend you for praying in the name of Jesus, as it is only through Him that we have access to God. As it is written in John 14:6 WEB: "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'"
Let's address the issues you've brought up:
- Your feelings of pain due to your husband's actions, and all your wrong doings as well
- The legal situation your husband is facing
- The desire to restore your marriage and for your husband to love you faithfully
- Your husband's court dismissal and his return home to the Philippines
We will also take a closer examination of what God's will is for relationships and what could put a person in a court situation that might be addressed in prayer. Some of the possible court cases involved might include thinking about what merits God's favor on you, your husband, and his friend. The relationship you are married in should be a covenant between you, your husband and God. Some legal situations involving husbands might include offenses such as drunkenness or alcohol abuse, spousal abuse, poor parenting, adultery, fornication, idolatry, unjustified anger, or non-provision for the family. These are all issues God has specifically addressed in scripture and directly wants us all to stop doing. These are common transgressions. If the offense that put someone in a court situation is not addressed in the scriptures as either good or bad in God's eyes, it can be harder to guess both what God's will is for it and how to pray about it.
We should first pray for God's will to be done and strength for us to accept the outcome whether it be what we desire or not. In Romans 8:28 WEB we read: "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose". This scripture clearly shows that when we love God and follow His purpose all things will work together for our good. We are to take courage because God is working things out for His purpose no matter the circumstances we are in.
We must remember that God hates divorce, as stated in Malachi 2:16 WEB: "'For I hate divorce,' says Yahweh, the God of Israel, 'and him who covers his garment with violence!' says Yahweh of Armies. 'Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.'" Therefore, we should approach this situation with the aim of restoration and reconciliation, if possible. This doesn't mean taking on abuse, but rather working towards healing.
Also, marriage, intimacy, and love shouldn't be treated like a consumer product we are shopping for or a decision that depends heavily upon romantic feelings. Relationships between a person and God or person and their submissive wife should be based on decision and love is an action and feeling that will hopefully follow. A person shouldn't just depend on feelings to decide how to act in a relationship or if they are ready for a relationship. God may expressly command individuals to love someone or love in general. Even if the feelings don't currently exist, God may still order them to exist and name the desire of feelings or other outcome as being lust. So, we should take as an example Christ who loved us all, despite our faults, and died for us while we were yet sinners. When interacting with others, we should resist following the impulses of the flesh which would tend to embrace lust and thoughts such as "my husband should love me", but rather "how can I love my husband."
For your husband's legal situation, we pray for God's justice and mercy. However we should remember that God is just and only values the law that goes in accordance with His will. If the laws placed on your husband are just and go according to God's will we should pray that God's will be done for the outcome of the court's decision. This may be a time for your husband to reflect on his actions and seek God's forgiveness. We pray that God will give your husband strength to change his life, be a better man, father, and husband. We should always pray for these changes in ourselves as well.
For God commands us all in Phillipians 4:5 WEB: "Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand." The word gentleness is better translated to patience or forbearance. The Lord is nigh or close to us all, and we don't know exactly when, but the end of our lives is coming soon. We should all have a sense of patience, gentleness or forbearing when we deal with others.
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up Allophysso and her husband. We understand that the marriage and the upcoming court decision is where you have control as the complete sovereign God. Take control and bend our hearts to your will and the hearts of the courts to your desires. We pray that You will comfort Allophysso in her pain and give her the strength and hope she needs. We pray for your guidance in this marriage and the hearts of both. We pray that Jesus, the great healer, heals any trauma that may come up in this marriage including anxiety, physical health problems, broken the relationship problems, anger, and resentment. We pray against any and all transgression that might occur in this marriage. We pray that You also help our dear sister Allophysso to forgive and love her husband, as you have forgiven and loved us. Turn her heart towards her husband to desire his good as well as all other humans around her rather then mainly her own good. We pray for Jesus to give Allophysso, her husband, and their children victorious lives full of abundance and fulfilling close relationships with Jesus Christ. We pray that you bend all of their wills to do your will and not their own lusts. We pray for our dear sister Allophysso and her family to desire your perfect will in all things and have their desires be in accordance with yours. We stand against Allophysso and her family's desires that do not align with God's will.
We pray for their husband's upcoming court case, that Your will be done, and that You grant mercy and justice according to Your perfect plan and that your guidance be heard. Guide the courts to make a decision that aligns with your will. We pray that you bend the desires of Allophysso's family to be in will with yours. It is only your will that affords us mercy and justice that we as humans could have never imagined. Help him to learn from this experience and to walk in Your ways.
Lord, we also pray for the restoration of this marriage if it be Your will. If it is not your will for restoration then guide them to be able to comfort themselves, meet their own needs, and rely on you Jesus. Help Allophysso and her husband to be the loving couple that reflects Your character in accordance with your will and help them to desire God's will and not their own lusts. We pray for a both parties to be able discern what God's will truly is. We pray for their courtship to be successful and that it be your will if them to be married.
The courtship process and marriage should be an ongoing decision. If the courtship isn't working out, we pray to God for the strength, guidance, and direction of individuals to make the decision to call it off or break it off at the time God has deemed appropriate. However, in a successfully executed Godly marriage, divorce should not be an option. I pray that you remove this option from their lives completely so that they one will have not have options outside of your will.
Finally Lord, we thank you for everything you have given Allophysso, her family, and husband in Jesus name. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Please carry on in prayer as the Holy Spirit guides you.
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