Praying but everything is getting worse?! Downhearted and desperate for Gods' help!

Esperanza · Oct 3, 2024

I've written here many times - and been kind of updating how things are. My ex just ended things with me abruptly - he's an avoidant - I went into no contact but reached out after some weeks. He was totally ignoring me, untill he sent a message saying he needed to end this permanently. No closure, no explanation. I'm devastated. I've tried to reconcile with him, to talk with him, but no.....I have to let go now - but all this praying, and everything gets worse? why? we are both christians and off course God might have pulled the breaks, but like this? no communication? we used to be best friends.
Will you please pray that my ex will open his heart to talk to me, for a reconciliation and a closure at least - or a brand new start. I still love him but feel totally worthless and depressed at the moment. Thank you.

Articles · Oct 3, 2024

Esperanza, we understand your heartache and desperation. We're here to pray with you and guide you according to God's Word.

Firstly, let's remember Jesus' words in Matthew 7:7-8 (WEB), "Ask, and it will be given you. Seek, and you will find. Knock, and it will be opened for you. For everyone who asks receives. He who seeks finds. To him who knocks it will be opened." Even when it feels like our prayers are unanswered, God is always listening and working in our lives.

However, it's crucial to align our desires with God's will. Sometimes, God closes doors to protect us or to guide us towards a better path. Psalm 147:3 says, "He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds." Trust that God can heal your broken heart and that He has a purpose in this pain.

We must also address that while you both are Christians, the abrupt ending of your relationship and the lack of communication do not align with biblical principles. Matthew 18:15 tells us, "If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother." Open communication and forgiveness should be pursued.

However, it's important to note that pursuing a romantic relationship should only be done if it aligns with God's will and biblical principles. If your ex is avoiding communication, it may be a sign that it's time to let go and trust God with your future.

Let us pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, we lift up Esperanza to you. We ask for your healing and comfort in her time of heartache. Lord, if it is your will, open the lines of communication between Esperanza and her ex, so they may find closure and forgiveness. But above all, Lord, we ask that your will be done in their lives. Guide Esperanza through this difficult time, remind her of her worth in your eyes, and help her to trust in you. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Esperanza, continue to seek God and His will for your life. Trust that He has a plan and a purpose for your pain. Keep praying and remember that God is always listening.

hostadmin · Oct 3, 2024

We're here with you, feeling your pain and frustration. We understand that it's hard to see any improvement when everything seems to be getting worse. But remember, even when it feels like God is silent, He's always at work. Let's keep praying and trusting in Him.

We've been praying for you both, asking God to soften your ex's heart and open the lines of communication. We've also been asking God to give you both His peace and understanding, to help you both see His will more clearly. We believe that God can use this situation to draw you both closer to Him and to each other, if that's His will.

In the meantime, let's focus on what we can control. You've been trying to reach out and reconcile, which is commendable. Let's keep doing that, but also remember to take care of yourself. It's okay to grieve and to feel down, but don't let those feelings consume you. You're precious in God's sight, and He's got a plan for you.

Let's keep praying together, trusting that God will work everything out for your good, according to His purposes. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Lizzymay · Oct 3, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

PrayerAngel67 · Oct 3, 2024

Esperanza said:
I've written here many times - and been kind of updating how things are. My ex just ended things with me abruptly - he's an avoidant - I went into no contact but reached out after some weeks. He was totally ignoring me, untill he sent a message saying he needed to end this permanently. No closure, no explanation. I'm devastated. I've tried to reconcile with him, to talk with him, but no.....I have to let go now - but all this praying, and everything gets worse? why? we are both christians and off course God might have pulled the breaks, but like this? no communication? we used to be best friends.
Will you please pray that my ex will open his heart to talk to me, for a reconciliation and a closure at least - or a brand new start. I still love him but feel totally worthless and depressed at the moment. Thank you.

Praying God gives you closer . I don't know if he is a narcissist but you will never get closure from a narc. They love bomb..slowly devalue your self esteem..and then abruptly discard you never looking back. There are you tube videos explaining narcissism..they don't care who they left behind or if they need closure .they have already moved on to their next " victim". If you were best friends and he's not even willing to explain .thus us suspicious. I know you are asking for prayer..but asking for your ex to give closure or a brand new start...maybe God has someone better for you ? I wish some of my past prayers for closure or someone to come back were never answered cuz the guy robbed me . Anyway praying God's peace and protection over you in Jesus name

PrayerAngel67 · Oct 3, 2024

Esperanza said:
I've written here many times - and been kind of updating how things are. My ex just ended things with me abruptly - he's an avoidant - I went into no contact but reached out after some weeks. He was totally ignoring me, untill he sent a message saying he needed to end this permanently. No closure, no explanation. I'm devastated. I've tried to reconcile with him, to talk with him, but no.....I have to let go now - but all this praying, and everything gets worse? why? we are both christians and off course God might have pulled the breaks, but like this? no communication? we used to be best friends.
Will you please pray that my ex will open his heart to talk to me, for a reconciliation and a closure at least - or a brand new start. I still love him but feel totally worthless and depressed at the moment. Thank you.

Sometimes God knows things about a person that we don't know...trust God.

The Encourager · Oct 3, 2024

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

usha rani · Oct 4, 2024

Praying in Jesus Name.

hostadmin · Oct 9, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.