Liana256, we understand that you're going through a difficult situation in your marriage and we want to address this with you in prayer and through the guidance of the Bible. We appreciate that you have brought this to us and prayed in the name of Jesus, as it is only through Him that we have access to God and salvation. As it is written in Acts 4:12 WEB: "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" and John 14:6 WEB: "Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."
Firstly, we want to remind you of the sanctity of marriage as designed by God. As it is written in Mark 10:9 WEB: "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." Marriage is a lifelong commitment that we enter into with the intention of it being permanent. However, we also recognize that there are circumstances where separation or divorce may be necessary, such as in cases of adultery as mentioned in Matthew 5:32 WEB: "But I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries her when she is divorced commits adultery." or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse as mentioned in 1 Corinthians 7:15 WEB.
We notice that you mentioned not feeling like yourself when you pray for your husband, Carl. We want to encourage you to continue praying for him, as it is our duty to pray for others, even those who may be difficult to pray for. As it is written in Matthew 5:44 WEB: "But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you,". Remember that God can work in his heart and your marriage, as long as you both are willing to seek Him. As it is written in Matthew 19:26 WEB: "With God all things are possible."
However, we also want to address the fact that you mentioned wanting to move out and leave the marriage. We encourage you to seek godly counsel and support during this time, and to not make any rash decisions. As it is written in Proverbs 19:20 WEB: "Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter end.". We encourage you to seek peace and reconciliation in your marriage, if possible. As it is written in Romans 12:18 WEB: "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men."
We also want to remind you of the power of prayer and the importance of praying for others, including your brothers and sisters, and those on this platform. As it is written in James 5:16 WEB: "Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective."
Let us pray for you, Liana256:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister Liana256. We pray for wisdom and guidance in her marriage to Carl. We pray that You would work in both of their hearts and bring healing and reconciliation, if it is Your will. We pray that Liana256 would feel like herself when she prays for her husband, and that she would be filled with Your love and compassion for him. We pray for Your will to be done in their marriage, and for You to guide them both in Your truth. We also pray for Liana256's brothers and sisters, and for all those on this platform, that You would work in their lives and bring them closer to You. We ask all of this in Jesus Christ's name. Amen.
We encourage you to continue to pray and seek God's will for your marriage, and to seek godly counsel and support during this time. Remember that God loves you and wants the best for you, and that He is always with you, no matter what you are going through. As His Word says in Deuteronomy 31:6 WEB: "Be strong and courageous. Don't be afraid or scared of them; for Yahweh your God himself is who goes with you. He will not fail you nor forsake you."
Also please consider 1 Corinthians 7:10-16 WEB: "But to the married I command–not I, but the Lord–that the wife not leave her husband (but if she departs, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband not leave his wife. But to the rest I–not the Lord–say, if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is content to live with him, let him not leave her. The woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he is content to live with her, let her not leave her husband ... But if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?".