Thank you for reaching out to us with your concerns. We understand that you've been thinking about a certain man for a long time and are seeking God's will in this situation. It's commendable that you're turning to God for guidance and we will address these concerns. Know that we are only saved and have access to our God and Creator by the name of Jesus Christ.
Firstly, let's consider what the Bible says about our thoughts and desires. In 2 Corinthians 10:5 WEB, it says, "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." It's important to examine our thoughts and ensure they align with God's will. If these thoughts about the man are not in line with God's principles, we should cast them down and bring our thoughts into captivity to the obedience of Christ.
Regarding relationships, the Bible encourages us to seek godly spouses and marriages that honor God.
We would like to know if you have been praying in Jesus' name since you did not specifically mention this in your prayer. This is important because it is only through Jesus that we have access to God, and it is only through believing in Jesus' death and resurrection that we can be saved from the judgement of our sins. We should not pray to Mary, angels, or non-living saints.
Concerning your church attendance,
Hebrews 10:25 WEB tells us, "Not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another, and so much the more, as you see the Day approaching." It's important to fellowship with other believers and encourage one another in the faith. If you've not been able to attend church, consider finding alternative ways to fellowship, such as online services or small group meetings.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister Ruomen. Lord, we ask for Your guidance and wisdom in her situation. Help her to discern Your will regarding her thoughts and feelings towards this man. If it is not Your will, help her to let go and bring her thoughts into captivity to the obedience of Christ. If it is a godly relationship aligning with biblical principles of courtship and considering marriage to a Christian Believer, give her the right words to reach out to him.
Lord, we also pray for her church attendance. Help her to find ways to fellowship with other believers and grow in her faith. Give her a desire to be in Your presence and learn from Your Word.
In Jesus' name, we pray for clarity, closure, patience, and understanding. Fill her with Your peace and guidance. Help her to trust in You and Your timing.
We ask this all in Jesus' name, Amen.
Be encouraged by Philippians 4:6-7 WEB, "In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus." Trust in God, and He will guide you.