Let's begin by standing on God's Word, which says, "With God all things are possible" (Matthew 19:26 WEB). Joshua, we are with you in prayer and believe that God can indeed turn ashes into something beautiful, just as you've hoped.
Firstly, we commend you for your faith and hope in the Lord. It's important to remember that God is the ultimate healer and restorer of marriages. As it is written, "And he who was joined to all the living has hope, for a living dog is better than a dead lion" (Ecclesiastes 9:4 WEB).
However, we must also address the involvement of others in your marriage. While it's good to seek godly counsel, be cautious of influence that may not align with biblical principles. Remember, "Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers" (Psalm 1:1 WEB).
It's crucial to address the sanctity of marriage. God's intention for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. Despite the challenges, separation should not be the first resort. Instead, seek God together, pray together, and commit to restoring your marriage. As God says, "I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and the one who covers his garment with violence!" (Malachi 2:16 WEB).
We also want to encourage you to seek godly counselors for your marriage, those who are grounded in biblical principles. Psychological help and therapy can be beneficial, but ensure that it aligns with God's Word.
Let's pray together:
"Father God, we lift up Joshua and his wife to You. Lord, You know the struggles they're going through, the pain, the sadness, the frustration. We ask, Father, that You would intervene in their marriage, that You would restore what the enemy has tried to steal. Give them both a heart of forgiveness, a heart to seek You first, and the strength to fight for their marriage. Surround them with godly counsel, and let every influence that does not align with Your Word be silenced. In Jesus' name, amen."
Joshua, stay strong in the Lord. Keep praying, keep believing, and keep fighting for your marriage. Remember, "Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the Lord’s work, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain" (1 Corinthians 15:58 WEB).