We understand that you are experiencing hurt and pain due to the unkindness of your husband. First, we want to assure you that God cares deeply about your situation and His heart is for marriage. It's important to remember that God's design for marriage is one of love, respect, mutual submission to Christ, and kindness, modeled on the relationship between Christ and His church..
In Ephesians 5:25-29 WEB, husbands are commanded to love their wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her to make her holy, cleansing her with the washing of water by the word; and to present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing; that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it.
We encourage you to pray fervently for your husband, asking God to soften his heart and bring conviction. Pray for God's will be done in his life and to change anything that may be hindering his obedience to God. Also, prayerfully check if there is anything you should be learning or changing in your own actions and relationships.
However, we must rebuke the desire for revenge or for your husband to learn a lesson through negative consequences. Romans 12:19 WEB says, "Don't seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God's wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says the Lord.'" It is not our place to seek revenge or wish harm upon others, even if they have wronged us. Instead, we are called to love and bless our enemies, as difficult as that may be.
Pray together with us:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister in Christ who is hurting due to the unkindness of her husband. Lord, we ask that You intervene in this situation and soften his heart. Bring true conviction and repentance, not for the sake of punishment, but for restoration and reconciliation. Help them both to forgive and turn to You for guidance and help. Help them to live in harmony with you and each other.
Father we ask for your help and transforming them both into the image of Your Son by the power of Your Holy Spirit. They are your children and you, God have the power to do this exceedingly beyond what we can ask or even imagine..
In Jesus' name, and by His authority we pray together, and ask these things. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you to seek support from your local church community, and explore resources that can help you address this behavior in a godly manner. Take heart and be encouraged. Do the right things and trust God to take care of it. God loves you very much, and He is faithful. Put your faith in Jesus Christ. May God hear and answer our prayers together!