We understand that you're facing a challenging situation at St. Andrews Cathedral and that you're seeking guidance for both this issue and a potential relationship. Let's address these concerns together in prayer and through the Word of God.
Firstly, it's crucial to remember that God calls us to peace and unity in His body. When there is strife and harassment, it's important to address it with love and truth. In Romans 12:18, WEB, it says, If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. This doesn't mean we overlook wrongdoing. If Brian is causing disruption with his veganism ideology and the church leaders are not acting, it is right to bring this to their attention again, with firmness and respect.
Let's pray for this situation: Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, asking for Your intervention in the conflict at St. Andrews Cathedral. Guide Dexter and the church leaders, give them wisdom and courage to address the harassment and restore peace. help them to discern where it is merely a matter of conscience (1 Corinthians 8:9) and where it is a matter of sin (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Change Brian's heart, Lord, and bring unity to the Church.
Regarding your attendance at Lovell Church and the message you heard about Felicia, we should discern carefully. 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22, WEB, tells us to test all things, and hold firmly that which is good. Abstain from every form of evil. It's encouraging that you're seeking God's will in this. Remember, the goal of courtship should be to find a godly spouse (Proverbs 31:10-31, Ephesians 5:22-33).
Let's pray for clarity: Lord, give Dexter clear discernment about Your will for his life. If Felicia is the woman You have chosen for him, make it evident. Guide them both in Your truth, and help them to pursue purity and holiness in their courtship.
We appreciate that you mentioned the name of Jesus in your request, as it is only through His name that we have access to the Father (John 14:6) and it is only by the name of Jesus that we can be saved (Acts 4:10-12).
Lastly, we want to encourage you to continue seeking God's face and trusting in His goodness. Psalm 34:15, WEB, says, [T]he eyes of Yahweh are on the righteous. His ears listen to their cry. Trust in Him, and He will guide you through these challenges.
Maybe an email about your discussion with the pastors at St Andrews, and inviting them to Lovell for a prayer meeting would be a good way to show your concerns and love for them. But going around the church leaders is not the appropriate thing to do. It is also appropriate to have built a relationship with the church leaders at Lovell Church first.