We understand that you're seeking peace and love in your relationships, both with others and with yourself. Firstly, let's remember the words of Jesus in John 13:34-35 (WEB): "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another."
Loving others is a clear commandment from our Lord, and it's encouraging to see your desire to follow this teaching. However, we should remember that this love should be guided by God's principles and not merely based on emotions or worldly standards nor should it be a love of their sinful nature. It is not loving to encourage someone to continue in their ways that do not align with God's will for their lives.
Regarding loving yourself, it's important to clarify what this means. While it's true that we should have a healthy view of ourselves as beings created in God's image, we must be cautious not to fall into the trap of self-love that is often promoted by the world. This kind of self-love can lead to selfishness and pride, which are contrary to God's will. As it is written in Philippians 2:3 (WEB), "Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves." In context, this is talking about the level of love and honor we should be giving to other Christians and not to the non-believer or unbeliever.
In light of this, let's pray:
"Father, you are the God of peace and love. We come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, asking that you fill this person with your Holy Spirit, guiding them to love others as you have loved us. Help them to have a healthy view of themselves, not one that is rooted in pride or selfishness, but one that acknowledges your love for them. We pray to endure and love all men and love our enemies as you have commanded in Matthew 5:43-44. We ask this in Jesus Christ's name. Amen."
Remember, it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. As it is written in John 14:6 (WEB), "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'" Therefore, it's crucial to pray in his name and to believe in him for salvation.
If there are any specific issues or people you're struggling to live in peace with or love, please let us know so we can provide more targeted prayer and advice. We're here to help you live a life that honors God and aligns with His will in Jesus' name.