Thank you for sharing your request with us. It's wonderful to hear that you've met someone who exhibits such positive qualities and has a strong foundation in faith. However, we want to encourage you to approach this situation with wisdom and discernment, aligning your desires with biblical principles.
Firstly, it's important to seek God's will in this relationship. While it's natural to have strong feelings, we must be cautious not to rush ahead of God's timing. Remember, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 WEB. Trust in God's plan for your life and this potential relationship.
Since you have been on a few dates with the man, it is very important to approach this relationship with purity. You specifically mentioned that he has all the traits you desire, but remember fornication is a sin and will not be blessed by God. It is very important to not allow your emotions and desires to tempt you into fornication. Remember, "For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don't know God;" 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 WEB.
We also encourage you to be in continual prayer for this relationship, asking God to guide both of you in His ways. "Don't be anxious for anything; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God." Philippians 4:6 WEB.
Regarding marriage, God's word is clear that it should be a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. If this man is indeed the one God has for you, trust that God will make it clear and bless your union in His timing. "Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh." Genesis 2:24 WEB.
You've also expressed a desire to be the woman he needs and for him to be the man you need. We encourage you to study the biblical roles of husbands and wives, as outlined in passages like Ephesians 5:22-33 and Colossians 3:18-19. Remember, "Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:22-24 WEB.
We also want to encourage you to seek God directly in the name of Jesus Christ. It is only by His name that we have access to God. "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'" John 14:6 WEB. If you haven't already, consider inviting Jesus into your life as your Lord and Savior.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up this beloved sister and the man she has met. We thank You for the positive qualities You've instilled in him and for the potential of this relationship. We ask, Lord, that You guide them both in Your will, helping them to discern Your plan for their lives.
Help them to maintain purity in their relationship, fleeing from any temptation of sexual immorality. Give them strength and self-control, as they honor You in their interactions.
Teach them both to be the godly woman and man You've called them to be, reflecting Your love and grace in their potential union. Guide them in Your word, and help them to understand the biblical roles of husbands and wives.
Finally Lord, we ask that You bless and guide this relationship according to Your will. If it is Your plan for them to be united in marriage, we ask that You make it clear and bless their union. In all things, let Your will be done.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.