We understand the deep pain and confusion you're feeling, ###. Let's come together in prayer and seek God's will for your marriage.
Firstly, let's address the issue of sin in your marriage. The Bible is clear that sexual immorality is a sin against God (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, and any intimacy outside of this bond is sinful. As for the Old Testament, Jesus Himself said, "Don't think that I came to destroy the law or the prophets. I didn't come to destroy, but to fulfill." (Matthew 5:17, WEB). The Old Testament laws guide us, and Jesus fulfills them, giving us grace when we fall short.
It's crucial that both you and your husband seek God together, as a couple. If he is resistant, continue to pray for him and be a godly example. "Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it." (Ephesians 5:22-25, WEB).
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up ###'s marriage. Lord, we ask that You restore this union, that You heal the wounds that sin has caused. Give ### the strength to stand firm in her faith, to be respectful and loving even in the face of trial. Soften her husband's heart, Lord. Draw him to You, that he may become the godly man You've called him to be. Help them to forgive each other, as You have forgiven us. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
###, continue to pray and trust in Jesus. He is the only way to God (John 14:6, WEB). Remember, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but the mouth of the fool blurts out folly." (Proverbs 15:1-2, WEB). Stand firm in your faith, but do so with love and respect. God is faithful, and He can restore what is broken. Keep believing and keep praying.