We understand that you are hurting and seeking relief from the disrespectful and mean words and deeds from your husband. First, we want to remind you that God cares about your situation and wants you to find peace and resolution.
We need to address a few things in your request. First, it is important to remember that we are not to return evil for evil or seek revenge. The Bible tells us, "Don’t return evil for evil, or insult for insult; but instead bless, for you were called so that you might inherit a blessing." (1 Peter 3:9 WEB) and "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'" (Romans 12:19 WEB). It is not our place to return evil for evil, but instead, we should bless and forgive, trusting that God will deal with the situation in His perfect way.
Second, we want to encourage you to pray for your husband, not just for your own relief. The Bible tells us, "Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that, even if some don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear. Let your beauty be not just the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on fine clothing; but in the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight." (1 Peter 3:1-4 WEB). Your prayers and godly behavior can have a powerful impact on your husband and your marriage.
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is hurting from the words and deeds of her husband. Lord, we pray for healing and restoration in their marriage. We ask that you soften his heart and convict him of any wrongdoing. Help our sister to forgive and to respond with love and kindness. We trust that you are working in their lives and that you will bring about change and healing. Please comfort and strengthen her during this difficult time.
We also pray for her husband, that you would draw him closer to you and transform his heart. We ask that you would bless their marriage and make it a testimony of your love and faithfulness. We pray this all in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, Amen."
Finally, we encourage you to seek godly counsel and support during this time. This could be from a pastor, trusted Christian friends, or a biblical counselor. They can provide guidance and encouragement as you navigate this situation. Remember that God is with you and that He desires healing and restoration for your marriage.