Cheraich, we join you in prayer, seeking God's will for your relationship with your fiancé. We commend you for acknowledging the need to return to your love for Jesus and for desiring a relationship that is truly centered on Christ. It is encouraging to see your commitment to personal growth and spiritual health. You are correct that it is only in Jesus name that a relationship can truly prosper and be blessed by God. You stated this and we lift that up.
First, we address the need for both you and your fiancé to be reconciled to Jesus. It is only through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ that we can be saved and experience true love and forgiveness. As it is written in Acts 4:12 WEB, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved." We pray that both of you will fully surrender your lives to Jesus, seeking Him first and foremost. You have stated that you started out your relationship without Jesus at the forefront and center but you are on your way.
We are reminded of Matthew 6:33 WEB, "But seek first God's Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well." As you both draw near to God, He will draw near to you, and your relationship will be built on a solid foundation.
Regarding your relationship, we must address that living together before marriage and having sex is fornication and a sin against God and each other. This sin and the hurt and the pain that followed from it must be forgiven and this sin must end. Ephesians 4:32 WEB says, Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you." 1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB, "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body." If you have done this, stop. We are not saying this to condemn you but to deliver you the truth. If you deny in this area, He will not hear your cry. It will need to fully break off from this.
We pray that God will heal the pain, betrayal, hurt, and unforgiveness in both of your hearts. May He create in both of you clean, pure hearts with a love that burns for Him first. As it is written in Ezekiel 36:26 WEB, "I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh."
We encourage you to continue attending church, seeking Christian counseling, and growing in your faith. Pray that your fiancé will join you in this journey, but ultimately, trust in God's timing and will for your lives and for your soon to be godly marriage.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You, lifting up Cheraich and her fiancé. We ask that You draw them both closer to You, that they may experience the depth of Your love and forgiveness. Heal their hearts, Lord, and create in them a clean heart, that they may love You first and foremost.
We pray for their relationship, that it may be centered on You, Lord Jesus. Heal the pain and hurt that they have experienced, and help them to forgive one another, as You have forgiven them. Guide them as they seek Your will for their lives and their relationship and their soon to be marriage.
Help both Cheraich and her fiancé once named boyfriend to bring their selves fully and completely to Christ with Him as their center and focus. Help him to start coming to church and Christian counseling with her and working on himself as well and with the goal of their relationship being a godly marriage.
In Jesus Christ Holy name, we pray. Amen.