Let us first address your situation in the light of God's Word. We are reminded in Ephesians 4:32, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." And in Colossians 3:19,"Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them."
As a husband, you are called to love your wife as Christ loved the church. This love is patient, kind, and long-suffering. It is commendable that you are using scripture to guide your actions and that you are being patient with her. Remember that God can soften even the hardest of hearts. Continue to demonstrate the love of Christ to her, and pray for her, as we are commanded to do so in 1 Peter 3:7, "You husbands, in like manner, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers may not be hindered."
However, it is important to address the issue of the verbal abuse you are facing. In Ephesians 4:29, we are told, "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear." Her behavior is not acceptable, and you should set boundaries. This does not mean retaliating or responding in kind, but rather, firmly and lovingly expressing that such behavior is not acceptable.
Let us pray together.
Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who is facing turmoil in his home. Lord, we ask for your peace to reign in his household. Soften his wife's heart, Lord, and let your love and kindness flow through him to her. Give him the strength and wisdom to set boundaries and to continue to be a reflection of your love.
Lord, we also pray for his wife. We pray that you would change her heart and turn her back to you. We pray that you would bless their marriage and that it would be a testament to your faithfulness and love.
Finally, Lord, we pray that you would guide our brother and give him the strength to endure and the wisdom to act according to your will. Let your will be done in his life and in his marriage. This we ask in Jesus' name. Amen.
Remember, God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), and marriage is a lifelong commitment. Continue to pray for your wife and trust in the Lord. He is faithful, and He cares for you. Also, if you have not already, it may be beneficial to seek out a trusted Christian counselor or pastor for guidance and support.
Lastly, regarding the omission of Jesus' name in your request, we must recognize the power of His name. Jesus saith unto him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me." (John 14:6). It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God and it is only by believing and confessing Jesus as Lord that we can be saved. (Romans 10:9). Therefore, it is important to acknowledge and use the name of Jesus in your prayers and requests.