We are truly saddened to hear about the difficulties you're facing in your relationship with Pamella Julius. However, we must address this situation from a biblical perspective. Firstly, we notice that you referred to Pamella as your partner, but we want to encourage you to consider a courtship that honors God and has marriage as its goal. The Bible teaches us that a man and a woman should come together in holy matrimony, as outlined in Scripture:
Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh.Genesis 2:24 WEB
Secondly, we want to remind you that the enemy can indeed attack our minds and relationships, but God's power is far greater. We encourage you to pray together and seek God's will for your future. Remember that God's plan for marriage is clear:
Be subject to one another, out of reverence for Christ. Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; That he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.Ephesians 5:21 WEB
Now, let's pray together for your situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up Voghben and Pamella Julius to You. Lord, we pray that You will speak to Pamella's heart and mind, drawing her closer to You and freeing her from any strongholds the enemy may have. We ask that You will guide their relationship, giving them wisdom and discernment as they consider a future together in holy matrimony. Help them to seek Your will and Your glory in their lives. We rebuke any influence the enemy may have of their relationship and pray that this or their relationship may be healed to establish a godly relationship between them if a marriage is the outcome. We pray that your way is perfect and whether or not your will is for marriage, their lives may glorify you as your will is realized.
Father, if Pamella Julius has not accepted Jesus Christ as her personal savior than we pray that she may know that it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved.
And they said, Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. Acts 16:31 KJV (WEB)
Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. Acts 4:12 KJV (WEB We pray that she may believe in Jesus Christ so that an unequally yoked marriage may be avoided. If she truly is in the faith then we rebuke her of any sexual relationship she is having outside the covenant of marriage. And we pray that she or Voghben may return to this courtship with marriage as its goal and live according to holy principles.
But shun sexual immorality. "Every sin that a man does is outside the body," but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB.
It is with the utmost compassion and care that we kindly correct you about our concern.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage both of you to continue praying together and studying the Word. Seek godly counsel and consider premarital counseling if marriage becomes a possibility. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.