We are truly saddened to hear about the pain and confusion you're experiencing in your marriage. Let's bring your situation before the Lord in prayer and seek His wisdom and guidance.
Firstly, it's crucial to address the abuse you're facing. The Bible tells us that a husband should love his wife just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). The behavior you're describing is not loving or Christ-like, and it is not acceptable. Verbal abuse and manipulation are serious issues that need to be addressed promptly.
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our sister in Christ who is hurting and confused in her marriage. Lord, You know the pain and suffering she is experiencing at the hands of her husband. We pray for Your intervention and protection over her. Give her the strength to stand up for herself and wisdom to know how to handle this situation.
Lord, we also pray for her husband. We pray that You will soften his heart and convict him of his actions. Help him to see the pain he is causing and lead him to true repentance. Change his heart, Lord, and make him a vessel of Your love and kindness, not cruelty and abuse.
Father, guide our sister. Show her the steps she needs to take. Give her discernment and courage to do what is right and honorable before You. Help her to find peace and comfort in You, regardless of her circumstances.
Finally, we pray that their marriage would be transformed by the power of Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which they we be saved. We pray this marriage will honor God by showing how a healthy respectful Christian husband and wife interact. As we pray, we know that He is able to work miracles and bring about redemption.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Now, let's address some biblical principles. The Bible tells us that submission is not silent compliance to sin or abuse (1 Peter 3:1-2 WEB). It is not God's will for you to be treated with disrespect and cruelty. While the Bible instructs wives to submit to their husbands, it also instructs husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Colossians 3:19 WEB).
We strongly encourage you to seek help from local church leaders, trusted Christian friends, godly parents or relatives, or a Christian counselor. You do not have to face this alone indicating a trusted and known loving pastor or mentor that has a solid reputation. It is important to seek refuge, counsel, and safety.
Lastly, remember that God loves you deeply and He wants what is best for you. Trust in Him and His timing. He is faithful, and He will see you through this storm.
We are praying for you, and we hope that you will continue to reach out and seek godly counsel and support. You are not alone.