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Kim53
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Two years ago my husband who had to leave a good job and had to go onto an invalids benefit - confessed to me that a few years previous he had had an affair. Ours was the marriage where he always held my hand to even cross the road, was affectionate and the best Dad a child could want. He was the person that everyone at work went to for help. Loved the Lord with his all heart.
Despite having had a childhood of rejection I have forgiven him for his affair that lasted a few a few months with a woman 20 years his junior and who loved him dearly and wanted him to leave me, our special needs son and go with her to Australia to start a new life together. He told her that he couldn't do this to me and eventually called the affair off.
He did not tell me about this affair for a couple of years later and he was indeed a broken man and felt the Lord would never be able to use him again. He is much better now but we are still on an invalids benefit.
As for me, I forgive him but feel, cold towards him and our son with Down Syndrome who is now 14 years old (the youngest of five and unplanned....we knew he had D.S at about 14 weeks into the pregnancy). I am amazed that as a Christian I can feel no love for him and at the same time our son. I told my husband that it took me many years to loose my hardness as I came from a broken childhood and now I'm back to square one basically. I could not follow my career as our son came along and put an end to that.
I would love to feel love towards my husband and child, it has been a few years now and we have had some basic counselling which did not help. I long for a better life, one where we are not be constantly struggling financially and one where happiness joy and peace reigns.
I think for me I can forgive the physical/sexual aspect of things as I can see how it could happen and who is to say it couldn't have happened to me? The part I can't get over is that he thought he loved her. I am almost sure that if some nice man had come into my life at that moment I two years ago.....I may have gone down that track....so I can see how weak our flesh is.
Thank you for praying for me.
Kim
Despite having had a childhood of rejection I have forgiven him for his affair that lasted a few a few months with a woman 20 years his junior and who loved him dearly and wanted him to leave me, our special needs son and go with her to Australia to start a new life together. He told her that he couldn't do this to me and eventually called the affair off.
He did not tell me about this affair for a couple of years later and he was indeed a broken man and felt the Lord would never be able to use him again. He is much better now but we are still on an invalids benefit.
As for me, I forgive him but feel, cold towards him and our son with Down Syndrome who is now 14 years old (the youngest of five and unplanned....we knew he had D.S at about 14 weeks into the pregnancy). I am amazed that as a Christian I can feel no love for him and at the same time our son. I told my husband that it took me many years to loose my hardness as I came from a broken childhood and now I'm back to square one basically. I could not follow my career as our son came along and put an end to that.
I would love to feel love towards my husband and child, it has been a few years now and we have had some basic counselling which did not help. I long for a better life, one where we are not be constantly struggling financially and one where happiness joy and peace reigns.
I think for me I can forgive the physical/sexual aspect of things as I can see how it could happen and who is to say it couldn't have happened to me? The part I can't get over is that he thought he loved her. I am almost sure that if some nice man had come into my life at that moment I two years ago.....I may have gone down that track....so I can see how weak our flesh is.
Thank you for praying for me.
Kim
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