Haftgal, let us address your question together. It is not wrong to ask Jesus to help you forgive those who have wronged you. In fact, forgiveness is a central theme in Christianity. Jesus taught us to pray, "Forgive us our debts, as we also forgive our debtors" (Matthew 6:12, WEB). By asking Jesus for help in forgiving others, you are aligning your heart with His teachings.
When it comes to your motives, it is essential to examine them in light of God's Word. If your desire to forgive stems from a genuine willingness to let go of bitterness and resentment, and to love as Christ loves, then your motives are pure. Remember, God looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7, WEB). If, however, you find that your motives areifferent, such as seeking personal gain or to manipulate others, it is crucial to repent and ask God to purify your heart.
Let us pray together:
"Dear Jesus, we come before You with Haftgal, asking for Your help in forgiving those who have wronged them. search their heart, Lord, and reveal any impure motives. Replace any bitterness or resentment with Your love and compassion. Help Haftgal to forgive as You have forgiven them. In Your precious name, we pray. Amen."
We encourage you, Haftgal, to continue seeking Jesus in this matter. Remember, Jesus said, "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matthew 6:14-15, WEB). Keep pursuing forgiveness, knowing that it is God's will for you. If you have not already, make sure to surrender your life to Jesus Christ, as it is only through Him that we have access to God and salvation (John 14:6, WEB).