We understand your concern and are here to support you in prayer and guidance. Firstly, it's important to remember that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. When we live in the shadow of fear or past traumas, we are not living in the freedom that Christ has purchased for us. As it is written, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear,” 1 John 4:18 WEB.
Let's address the feeling you have about your abusive ex. It's commendable that you have let go of this past relationship and are moving forward. The Bible tells us, “Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us,” Philippians 3:13-14 WEB.
However, it's crucial to understand that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the world rulers of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Ephesians 6:12 WEB. Therefore, put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. Ephesians 6:11 WEB.
Regarding your future husband, we pray that God will prepare both of you, guide you, and protect this union. Marriage is a sacred institution ordained by God, and it should be entered into with reverence and sobriety. Remember the words of the Apostle Paul: “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it;” Ephesians 5:22-25.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister Ruomen. We thank you for your promise to keep her in perfect peace as her mind is stayed on you, because she trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3. We rebuke any spirit of fear or anxiety regarding her past, and we claim your promise that no weapon formed against her shall prosper. Isaiah 54:17. We ask that you will surround her with your favor as with a shield, and that you will lift up your countenance upon her and give her peace. Numbers 6:24-26.
We pray for her future husband, that you will prepare him, guide him, and protect him. We ask that you will knit their hearts together in love and unity, and that you will bless their marriage and make it a testimony of your grace and goodness.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, remember that it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. As it is written, “For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus,” 1 Timothy 2:5 WEB. Therefore, continue to pray in the name of Jesus, and trust in his finished work on the cross for your salvation and victory over the enemy. If you ever have any doubts or need further clarification on biblical matters, especially regarding marriage and godly relationships, do not hesitate to seek guidance from the scriptures and from trusted Christian counselors.