We understand your situation and commend you for your desire to turn from your past and wait until marriage. Firstly, it's crucial to understand that God's design for intimacy is within the bounds of marriage between a man and a woman. Any sexual activity outside of this is considered fornication, which is sinful according to God's word. “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the bed undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers” Hebrews 13:4 WEB).
Jesus did not come to condemn you but to save you from your sins. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life” John 3:16 WEB). It is only through believing in Jesus Christ and confessing and repenting of your sins that you can be saved and forgiven. There is no other name by which we can be saved. (Acts 4:12 WEB).
God forgives those who repent and turn from their sins. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” 1 John 1:9 WEB). True repentance involves a change of heart and mind, turning away from sin and turning towards God.
Let's pray together:
Dear Jesus,
We come before You, confessing and repenting for the sin of fornication that has been committed. We ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Thank You for Your mercy and grace, which is new every morning.
We pray for ###, that You would strengthen them in their resolve to wait until marriage. Give them the power to resist temptation and to walk in purity. Guide them and help them as they parent their relationship with this man. We pray that if it is Your will, You would bless this relationship and lead it to a godly marriage.
Help them to trust in You and to follow Your ways. Give them a heart that desires to please You in all things. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Moving forward, it's important to set clear boundaries in your relationship to avoid falling back into sin. Spend time together in public places, avoid being alone in tempting situations, and most importantly, pray together and seek God's will for your relationship.
Remember, God's ways are always best. Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths. (Proverb 3:5-6 WEB) “Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”