We are truly saddened to hear about the trials your marriage is facing, but we are here to intercede and provide biblical guidance. God ordained marriage to be a union and is a covenant that should never be broken. God chose us to be together. It is important to recognize that spiritual warfare is real, and Satan seeks to destroy marriages. As it is written in John 10:10 (WEB), "The thief only comes to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly."
Firstly, it is crucial to acknowledge that the only path is to go through the name of Jesus. It is only by His name that we can be saved. It is only through His name that God can hear our prayers. There is no other name by which we may be saved.
Secondly, we need to address the bitterness and resentment that has built up in your wife's heart. The Bible tells us in Hebrews 12:15 (WEB), "Looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled." Bitterness can take root and cause destruction, but God's grace can heal and restore.
We also need to address the childhood trauma that your wife has experienced. Trauma can have lasting effects, but God is the ultimate healer. Psalm 147:3 (WEB) tells us, "He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."
Given that your wife is reluctant to seek marital counseling, you should continue to pray fervently and consider fasting, a powerful tool for breaking spiritual strongholds. Remember, God can change hearts and restore marriages. Trust in Him and His timing. Your prayers may be answered immediately, but usually these things take time. You cannot just throw up your hands and give up because it takes time.
Let us pray together:
"Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this marriage that is under attack. We rebuke the enemy and his attempts to destroy what You have joined together. We pray for a hedge of protection around this family and for a compassionate heart within them.
Lord, we ask You to heal your wife's heart from all bitterness, resentment, and past trauma. Soften her heart and help her to forgive, just as You have forgiven us. Give her the courage to seek help and to open her heart to restoration.
Grant your husband wisdom and patience. Guide them both on the path to reconciliation and strengthen their love for each other. Help the wife to forgive the past and allow their marriage to be restored.
Remind them both of Your promise in Isaiah 61:1 (WEB), 'The Spirit of the Lord Yahweh is on me; because Yahweh has anointed me to preach good news to the humble. He has sent me to bind up the broken hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and release to those who are bound.'
We ask all this in the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen."
Stand firm in your faith and trust in the Lord's promises. Continue to show love and kindness to your wife, as outlined in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (WEB), "Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
Remember, God is faithful, and He wants to see your marriage restored. Trust in Him, and keep praying and believing.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. 
