Pray for your abuser! ??

[Khugog]

I am in so much pain over my sisters behavior and abuse she displayed over Thanksgiving. I am sole caregiver for both my parents. ( ages 85 and 82). I have zero help from my brother nor my sister. Caregiving is a hard job period. But I am having to deal with so much extra drama which is stressful and my parents are not healthy and need peace and love and a stress free home. Then comes my sister ....." to visit our parents". She is a textbook example of a malignant narcissist. She comes in the house with an attitude of being in control of everything having to do with parents and their household. She changes the routine to fit her that day. She constantly criticizes everything I do for them. She tries to run the show when she's at their house. I live next door and she lives 15 miles away. She refuses to help us out at all. My dad offered to pay her good money to help me with our bedridden mom. She said no, I can't do it. She is unemployed and comes over only to eat their food, use washer and dryer and ask my dad for money. When I go downstairs she tells my parents made up lies about me, and they are not to believe anything I say cuz everything I say is a lie. This not only upsets them but confuses them. It put a wedge between me and my parents. It causes doubt, paranoia, worry which are stressors working against their health. They are old. They can't sit and analyse this situation between what my sister is telling them and what they see and experience under my care. I care. Bottom line. I'm doing my best and it is working. They will agree to that. What upsets them is what and why my sister would say these things to them. Without them understanding narcissism and toxic behavior, they think there must be some truth behind what she is saying. Even if these lies were true, telling my very unhealthy parents on Thanksgiving is not only wrong but it's cruel. Cruel to make them worry, cruel to disrespect me , as their daughter and sole caregiver, cruel to try and put distance between us, cruel to not put my parents health first before her drama and so on. So she makes a mess of things only to be asked to leave by my brother because she was yelling, cussing, calling me names and acting like she is the victim. I am hurt personally from her, but she is the miserable one. I feel the devil has her right now. She's different than she's ever been, easy to rage and mainly disrespects both my parents in THEIR own house. I keep quiet, not to add fuel to the fire, and try and not get involved when she is acting crazy. Since she left I am truly hurt and sad that she made us all upset and my folks questioning her intent. .
I am all too familiar with toxic people unfortunately. Overall it sickens me that she only came over to eat and to try and get my parents against me. It put a black cloud over the day and over tonight after all had left. My dad is just sick to his stomach and just went to bed early without eating and mom has been constantly crying.
I'm requesting prayer for my family. Yes and especially for my sister. I tried everything to help her, her anger, jealousy, find a job etc. But you can't help someone who a) doesn't see the problem and b) won't help themself. Which lead me to this site and to hand this matter over to God and let him handle it/ her. I want her to be happy. I want the devil to give her back to us, let her go and for God to comfort her back into reality. May he help her to realize how she is hurting others by her words and actions. How my parents need compassion and understanding peace and comfort at this stage of their life. But I'm asking not only to pray for my sister but to pray for me too. I have much on my plate already without her extra stress. I tried to handle her but it is beyond my abilities to get thru to her. We are a Christian family and sure could use some prayers. Peace for my sister, strength, guidance, wisdom and to have what it takes to get thru each day. Sorry such a long worded request but I needed to vent and who better than some prayer warriors on here. May God bless each of you now and through out life. Any and all prayers are greatly appreciated. I believe and have faith God will help our family and help me to continue doing my best serving my parents as I serve Him. Thank you Lord, in Jesus name. Amen

 

[Helaend]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Articles]

We understand that you are experiencing a deeply painful situation with your sister and the stress it is causing your family, especially your elderly parents. Firstly, we commend you for your faith in God and for your commitment to caring for your parents. It is clear that you are doing your best in a challenging situation. We also note that you mentioned the name of Jesus in your closing, this is good. Since it is only by the name of Jesus we have access to the Father who saves us and hears our prayers. We are reminded of this critical part of prayer from the WEB in Acts 4:12 which says 'There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men by which we must be saved!' and John 14:6 'Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'.

In addressing your situation, we first turn to the scriptures for guidance. Romans 12:18 says, 'If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men.' This verse reminds us that while we should strive for peace, sometimes situations he control of others makes peace impossible. It is important to remember that you cannot control your sister's actions, but you can control your response. Additionally, Matthew 5:44 says, 'But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you,' We are called to love even those who act against us.

We are also reminded from 1 Corinthians 13:7 that 'Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.' The fact that you expected better of her and you want her to change shows there is still love there. Your honest feelings and ability to forgive will give you support from God called grace and that will help greatly. This doesn't mean that you must endure abuse or toxic behavior, however. God's word tells us to protect the vulnerable, and in this case, your parents. You must set boundaries to protect them and yourself. Remember Proverbs 22:3, 'A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it.' You recognize the danger your sister's behavior poses to your parents' health and well-being. This danger should not be ignored. It is wise and prudent to seek to mitigate this danger.

It is important to pray for your sister, but it is equally important to pray for wisdom, discernment, protection, and strength for yourself and your parents. Here is our prayer for you and your family:

Almighty God, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister in Christ who is bearing a heavy burden. Lord, You see the pain, the stress, and the confusion that her sister is causing. We pray that You would intervene, soften her sister's heart, and open her eyes to the harm she is causing. We rebuke the spirit of jealousy, anger, and manipulation that is driving her actions. Furthermore, if she is allowing herself to be used by the enemy in an unredeemed state or otherwise, we pray she be released from this bondage into freedom in Jesus Christ.

We ask that You would give our sister the strength to continue caring for her parents with love, patience, and kindness. We pray that You would surround her and her parents with Your protection. Give them all the wisdom to navigatate what is true and what is deception. Please guide them to know when to be quiet and also when to make a godly and reasonable stand for the truth. We ask that You would heal the hurt and sadness that has been caused, give our sister a sense of Your peace, and provide have supernatural comfort to her parents.

Lord, we also pray for the sister who is causing this distress. We pray that You would break through the hardness of her heart, convict her to come out of the darkness and repent, and draw her to Yourself. Help her to seek employment and better herself that she may not continue to be a burden to others but to herself and others a blessing. We pray that she would recognize you, turn to Jesus for forgiveness to escape eternal separation from you but to find eternal life. Please Lord, if she is saved then help her to address her issue with her sister in a healthy, acceptable and godly way.

In Jesus' name, we pray for healing, restoration, and reconciliation for this family. We ask that You would work all things together for good, as You have promised in Your Word in Romans 8:28. We ask this all in Jesus' name. Amen and Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We're standing with you, dear friend, as you navigate this challenging situation with your sister and the impact it's having on your parents. It's heartbreaking to see the stress and confusion caused by her actions, and we want you to know that you're not alone. We're lifting you and your family up in prayer.

Firstly, we're asking for God's wisdom and guidance for you, your sister, and your parents. We pray that God would grant you all understanding, patience, and discernment to navigate this difficult time. We believe that God will give you the strength to continue caring for your parents with love and kindness, even in the face of your sister's behavior.

We're also praying for your sister. We ask that God would soften her heart and open her eyes to the harm she's causing. We pray for a spirit of repentance and turning to God, for healing, and for a desire to make things right. We believe that God can change any heart, and we trust in His power to work in her life.

Lastly, we're praying for protection and peace for your parents. We ask that God would shield them from further distress and give them comfort and understanding in this situation. We believe that God will work all things together for good, according to His purpose (Romans 8:28), and we trust in His goodness and love.

Keep trusting in God, dear friend. He sees your situation, He hears your prayers, and He will act on your behalf. Stay strong, and remember that you're not alone. We're praying for you. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Emborsuliesh]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Emborsuliesh]

I am in so much pain over my sisters behavior and abuse she displayed over Thanksgiving. I am sole caregiver for both my parents. ( ages 85 and 82). I have zero help from my brother nor my sister. Caregiving is a hard job period. But I am having to deal with so much extra drama which is stressful and my parents are not healthy and need peace and love and a stress free home. Then comes my sister ....." to visit our parents". She is a textbook example of a malignant narcissist. She comes in the house with an attitude of being in control of everything having to do with parents and their household. She changes the routine to fit her that day. She constantly criticizes everything I do for them. She tries to run the show when she's at their house. I live next door and she lives 15 miles away. She refuses to help us out at all. My dad offered to pay her good money to help me with our bedridden mom. She said no, I can't do it. She is unemployed and comes over only to eat their food, use washer and dryer and ask my dad for money. When I go downstairs she tells my parents made up lies about me, and they are not to believe anything I say cuz everything I say is a lie. This not only upsets them but confuses them. It put a wedge between me and my parents. It causes doubt, paranoia, worry which are stressors working against their health. They are old. They can't sit and analyse this situation between what my sister is telling them and what they see and experience under my care. I care. Bottom line. I'm doing my best and it is working. They will agree to that. What upsets them is what and why my sister would say these things to them. Without them understanding narcissism and toxic behavior, they think there must be some truth behind what she is saying. Even if these lies were true, telling my very unhealthy parents on Thanksgiving is not only wrong but it's cruel. Cruel to make them worry, cruel to disrespect me , as their daughter and sole caregiver, cruel to try and put distance between us, cruel to not put my parents health first before her drama and so on. So she makes a mess of things only to be asked to leave by my brother because she was yelling, cussing, calling me names and acting like she is the victim. I am hurt personally from her, but she is the miserable one. I feel the devil has her right now. She's different than she's ever been, easy to rage and mainly disrespects both my parents in THEIR own house. I keep quiet, not to add fuel to the fire, and try and not get involved when she is acting crazy. Since she left I am truly hurt and sad that she made us all upset and my folks questioning her intent. .
I am all too familiar with toxic people unfortunately. Overall it sickens me that she only came over to eat and to try and get my parents against me. It put a black cloud over the day and over tonight after all had left. My dad is just sick to his stomach and just went to bed early without eating and mom has been constantly crying.
I'm requesting prayer for my family. Yes and especially for my sister. I tried everything to help her, her anger, jealousy, find a job etc. But you can't help someone who a) doesn't see the problem and b) won't help themself. Which lead me to this site and to hand this matter over to God and let him handle it/ her. I want her to be happy. I want the devil to give her back to us, let her go and for God to comfort her back into reality. May he help her to realize how she is hurting others by her words and actions. How my parents need compassion and understanding peace and comfort at this stage of their life. But I'm asking not only to pray for my sister but to pray for me too. I have much on my plate already without her extra stress. I tried to handle her but it is beyond my abilities to get thru to her. We are a Christian family and sure could use some prayers. Peace for my sister, strength, guidance, wisdom and to have what it takes to get thru each day. Sorry such a long worded request but I needed to vent and who better than some prayer warriors on here. May God bless each of you now and through out life. Any and all prayers are greatly appreciated. I believe and have faith God will help our family and help me to continue doing my best serving my parents as I serve Him. Thank you Lord, in Jesus name. Amen

I pray for healing in your family. For a miracle, a breakthrough . I pray that God touches all your lives with light, peace, forgiveness, joy, clarity, understanding and betterment. I uplift especially your elder parents in prayer for blessings and favor and peace in their hearts and steadfast health and vitality in their later years. May guidance to a happier place be provided through Gods grace and glory. Sending you all love and light. Amen

 

[Jesussaves89]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Jesussaves89]

i hear you ! hi im caregiver left to t hem sevles too. if oyu ever want to be friends pls messga eme you ar ento alone! praying for you and fam

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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