We understand your heartache and desire for reconciliation, but we want to guide you according to biblical principles. Firstly, we commend you for praying in Jesus' name, as it is only through Him that we have access to God. "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus" (1 Timothy 2:5 WEB).
However, we want to caution you against idolizing the concept of a "soul mate." The Bible does not support this idea. Instead, it teaches that believers are ultimately completed in Christ. "You therefore shall be perfect, just as your heavenly Father is perfect" (Matthew 5:48 WEB).
Your acknowledgment of past mistakes is commendable, and your commitment to honesty and sobriety is wonderful. Remember, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 WEB).
However, it's crucial to understand that God's will may not align with our desires. Instead of focusing on getting your ex-girlfriend back, focus on becoming the man God wants you to be. "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).
Let's pray together:
Dear Lord Jesus, we come before You, lifting up our brother who is hurting. We pray that You heal his heart and help him to grow in You. Help him to become the man You've called him to be. We pray for his ex-girlfriend, that Your will be done in her life. If it is Your will, we pray for reconciliation, but ultimately, we want Your perfect will for both of their lives. Help him to trust in You and to wait patiently for Your timing. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.