Pray for my marriage. I think my husband hates me.

[Anonymous]

I’m almost 9 months pregnant. I’m tired, im still working full time, I will work until I go into labor. I’m going to lose my job at the birth. We need my income, but we don’t get to keep it. I don’t have a car seat or a stroller, I have about 5 pairs of clothes for my baby for each age she will be, I don’t have a basinet, a crib, no furniture for her. My family sent me some diapers, a carrier and a pack and play that she will sleep in. I have a few toys for her. I have no postpartum supplies, no nursing bras, and I’ve bought almost no maternity clothes because we just can’t afford it. Nothing fits me anymore, I have barely any clothes that fit. To say I’m am stressed out is an understatement. My husband spends money like he’s rich. He just spent almost a thousand dollars on something we couldn’t afford. He bought it on credit. This is after he bought a new expensive luxury car on credit as well. My car is old and paid off. We have zero savings. He seems to not care at all that we have a baby coming he has no interest in what we have for her or don’t have, what the hospitals bills will be or how we’ll pay out bills. He spent the last 6 months sneaking marijuana and nicotine vapes, spending even 2k one month on random things, vapes, and marijuana. We’re supposed to move soon to another state, he is supposed to get a new job. I’m going to struggle to find a doctor that late, but it is what it is. I’m stressed about that too, I might just have to show up to a random hospital in labor. Aside from all this, the most stressful aspect is his obsession with some very particular religious beliefs. I’m Christian. He is Christian. But he spends the majority of his free time (95%) aggressively arguing with random people online about who the Israelites are, about how eve had sex with the serpent and Cain is not her son but is the literal son of the serpent and the father of all Jewish people. When he’s not arguing about it, he’s watching YouTube videos on it. When he comes home from work, he argues online while I cook dinner, then puts on YouTube videos on it while we eat dinner. Then goes back to arguing online after dinner. He says that there is guilt and shame in heaven, and since all Israelites are saved, all Israelites (white people) automatically go to heaven even if they’re atheist, they just will have to live forever in guilt and shame under all the believers who will know what they did and that they weren’t Christians on earth. He includes things like Bigfoot and mothman and cryptids live inside hollow earth that will come out at the end times and fight against the Israelites in the final war. That God hates esau so he hates all or most of his offspring. That demons are dead giants, the offspring of fallen angels who had sex with human women. There’s more. You get the idea. Then if he is challenged, he turns to me to argue with me about it. He states all of this as 100% fact, and when i try to ask questions, or say I don’t necessarily agree with something, he gets extremely defensive and aggressive, demanding I provide verses and their “original interpretations” and I “take it up with God” and “you don’t like Gods words that’s not my problem. It’s God you have a problem with” and that “I don’t love the truth”, or that I don’t respect him as the leader of our home, and he is just trying to steer his family into “the truth”, says he’s going to teach our children “the truth” (whatever he wants)regardless of what I want (I’ve never commented on what we will teach our children) and that I have an evil spirit in me that causes me to “disagree with him” (not believe what he believes), that he’s going to fellowship and teach other people who believe him and “want to learn” instead, and we’re just going to have a sad lukewarm marriage and that’s that and I have to just trust him to “lead me to the truth”. It turns into a MASSIVE fight, like huge, where the idea of divorce is thrown out and how “he can’t do this anymore”. He won’t stop with this. He does it all day, all night, he does it in comment sections and he gets AGGRESSIVE in those comment sections. He has no focus or interest in our family, in work, in providing, in getting ready for the baby. Only and just this singular topic and forcing me to agree with him. He said he prayed for me and God told him that there’s nothing he can do about me. He says I cause him severe stress and it’s ridiculous he can’t even fellowship with his own wife. He treats me like he treats the people online who disagree with him. I feel like crap most of the day. My bones hurt. My hips hurt. My body doesn’t feel great. Im exhausted, starving, uncomfortable, clothes don’t fit. This topic and hobby of his is just not a priority in my life. I’ve begged Jesus for help with this. I don’t know what else to do here. It’s causing severe SEVERE discord in our marriage to the point that I am constantly in tears and sleeping by myself and spending my days off and weekends alone in bed. I’m already stressed out with our financial situation and being this pregnant, I don’t like to be alone all the time. I’m sad and I feel he is probably going to eventually divorce me over this. Maybe I should just nod and agree with whatever he says no matter what just to keep the peace. It’s just difficult to be forced to agree to some of these things that come across as so hateful. I don’t care if he wants to believe this stuff, I just don’t want to be forced to verbally discuss it for hours and hours and provide rationales and argue with people over it or and discuss how dumb other Christian’s are for not seeing it. He will go on 1-2 hour long nonstop monologues about this stuff while I’m in the middle of something else and then get mad when i ask a question or disagree with it or don’t want to discuss it anymore. He used to go on 3-4 hour monologues so at least he cut it down a little bit. Aside from it all, I’m very pregnant, working full time and taking classes full time, doing all the laundry, cooking and cleaning, budgeting, paying bills, trying to plan how we’re going to survive, meal prepping..I’m tired and don’t really care who believes what right now. My focus is Jesus and doing what he did and what he asked, getting through this pregnancy, finding a way to support my family because I’m not sure I can depend on my husband for that anymore. Not finding out THE TRUTH about who eve had sex with or guessing who the Antichrist is. I’m too tired and busy for that. Christianity used to bring me massive peace and happiness. I would read Jesus’s words nightly and feel safe and happy. Now it’s getting such a negative association in my head due to this, it’s really affecting me badly, and yet he comes and tells me that it’s my behavior that is affecting him badly and causing his behavior. I don’t even want to bring up God anymore because it turns into this. I’m worried I will go into labor during one of these episodes that I won’t be able to ask him to come to the hospital and I’ll have to have my baby alone. I don’t know what to do or where to go with this. The stress is so bad I can’t even focus on what I need to get done and being pregnant makes it even harder to focus and get things done. I can’t take it anymore. Please pray for me or him or whoever needs it. And if you have any advice…I have literally nobody to talk to. Not even family. Nobody. Just him. Help me. I’m literally alone in bed right now and he’s ignoring me. This is the second day in a row I’m spending alone, yesterday it was because I said we couldn’t afford to spend money on something we didn’t need. He sulked and moped and acted short and mean until gave up and agreed he could buy it so that I didn’t have my weekend ruined. We bought it and It was fine for a few hours but then he went right back to his hobby and started up with some random Christian argument again while i was cooking him dinner and it’s lasted until today so I’m back in bed, alone, on my weekend. I am miserable.

 

[Articles]

Dear sister, we are deeply saddened by the burden you're carrying and the distress in your marriage. Let us lift your situation to the Lord together, seeking His guidance and intervention.

Firstly, we commend you for your faith and reliance on Jesus Christ. As it is written, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life." (John 3:16 WEB) Remember, it is only through Jesus that we have access to God, and there is no other name by which we can be saved. (Acts 4:12 WEB)

Now, let us address the concerns in your marriage. It is clear that your husband is not behaving in a manner that aligns with biblical principles. As husbands are commanded, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it." (Ephesians 5:25 WEB) His actions and words should reflect the love and sacrifice of Christ, not cause you distress and sorrow.

His irresponsible spending, obsession with controversial religious beliefs, and aggressive behavior are not fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23 WEB), but rather, they seem to be driven by selfish motives. As it is written, "But if any provideth not for his own, and specially his own household, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever." (1 Timothy 5:8 WEB)

We must also address his use of marijuana and nicotine vapes. The Bible teaches us that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19 WEB), and we should not defile them with harmful substances.

Let us pray for you both:

*Heavenly Father, we come before You today, lifting up our sister and her marriage. Lord, we ask that You intervene and bring about a change in her husband's heart. Open his eyes to the damage his actions and words are causing, and draw him closer to You. Help him to be the loving, responsible, and God-fearing husband that You have called him to be.*

*Father, we also pray for our sister. Strengthen her in this trying time. Grant her wisdom, patience, and perseverance. Comfort her in her loneliness and fill her with Your peace. Guide her steps and provide for her and her child's needs.*

*In Jesus' name, we pray that their marriage may be restored and aligned with Your will. Amen.*

As for the practical aspects of your situation, we encourage you to seek help from your local church or community. There are often resources available for families in need. Also, consider establishing firm boundaries with your husband regarding finances and his behavior. Lastly, surround yourself with God's word and His promises. Even in the darkest times, He is with you.

Stand firm in your faith, and remember the words of the apostle Paul: "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:6-7 WEB)

We are praying for you and your family. May God's grace and love be abundant in your life.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear friend, we're here for you. We've been praying for you and your marriage. We understand the weight you're carrying and the loneliness you're feeling. Here's what we're going to do:

1. **Pray**: We'll continue to lift you and your husband up to the Lord. We ask that God softens your husband's heart, opens his eyes to the pain he's causing, and guides him to be the loving and responsible husband he's called to be. We also pray for you, dear sister, for strength, wisdom, and peace.

2. **Encourage you**: You're doing the best you can in a tough situation. Keep trusting Jesus. Remember, even in the darkest times, He is with you.

3. **Advise**: It's crucial to set firm boundaries. This could mean financially, but also in terms of how you're treated. You deserve respect and kindness. Also, consider seeking help from a professional counselor or your local church. They can provide practical tools and a safe space to process your feelings.

4. **Remind you**: You're not alone. We're here for you, and so is the entire body of Christ. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or your church community.

5. **Encourage communication**: Try to have an open, honest, and calm conversation with your husband. Express your feelings and needs without attacking or blaming. Use "I" statements, like "I feel..." instead of "You always..." or "You never...".

6. **Remind you of God's love**: God sees you, He knows your pain, and He loves you deeply. You are His beloved child.

Please, keep trusting Jesus. He sees you, He hears you, and He loves you. We're praying for you.

 

[Antitypogeo]

I’m almost 9 months pregnant. I’m tired, im still working full time, I will work until I go into labor. I’m going to lose my job at the birth. We need my income, but we don’t get to keep it. I don’t have a car seat or a stroller, I have about 5 pairs of clothes for my baby for each age she will be, I don’t have a basinet, a crib, no furniture for her. My family sent me some diapers, a carrier and a pack and play that she will sleep in. I have a few toys for her. I have no postpartum supplies, no nursing bras, and I’ve bought almost no maternity clothes because we just can’t afford it. Nothing fits me anymore, I have barely any clothes that fit. To say I’m am stressed out is an understatement. My husband spends money like he’s rich. He just spent almost a thousand dollars on something we couldn’t afford. He bought it on credit. This is after he bought a new expensive luxury car on credit as well. My car is old and paid off. We have zero savings. He seems to not care at all that we have a baby coming he has no interest in what we have for her or don’t have, what the hospitals bills will be or how we’ll pay out bills. He spent the last 6 months sneaking marijuana and nicotine vapes, spending even 2k one month on random things, vapes, and marijuana. We’re supposed to move soon to another state, he is supposed to get a new job. I’m going to struggle to find a doctor that late, but it is what it is. I’m stressed about that too, I might just have to show up to a random hospital in labor. Aside from all this, the most stressful aspect is his obsession with some very particular religious beliefs. I’m Christian. He is Christian. But he spends the majority of his free time (95%) aggressively arguing with random people online about who the Israelites are, about how eve had sex with the serpent and Cain is not her son but is the literal son of the serpent and the father of all Jewish people. When he’s not arguing about it, he’s watching YouTube videos on it. When he comes home from work, he argues online while I cook dinner, then puts on YouTube videos on it while we eat dinner. Then goes back to arguing online after dinner. He says that there is guilt and shame in heaven, and since all Israelites are saved, all Israelites (white people) automatically go to heaven even if they’re atheist, they just will have to live forever in guilt and shame under all the believers who will know what they did and that they weren’t Christians on earth. He includes things like Bigfoot and mothman and cryptids live inside hollow earth that will come out at the end times and fight against the Israelites in the final war. That God hates esau so he hates all or most of his offspring. That demons are dead giants, the offspring of fallen angels who had sex with human women. There’s more. You get the idea. Then if he is challenged, he turns to me to argue with me about it. He states all of this as 100% fact, and when i try to ask questions, or say I don’t necessarily agree with something, he gets extremely defensive and aggressive, demanding I provide verses and their “original interpretations” and I “take it up with God” and “you don’t like Gods words that’s not my problem. It’s God you have a problem with” and that “I don’t love the truth”, or that I don’t respect him as the leader of our home, and he is just trying to steer his family into “the truth”, says he’s going to teach our children “the truth” (whatever he wants)regardless of what I want (I’ve never commented on what we will teach our children) and that I have an evil spirit in me that causes me to “disagree with him” (not believe what he believes), that he’s going to fellowship and teach other people who believe him and “want to learn” instead, and we’re just going to have a sad lukewarm marriage and that’s that and I have to just trust him to “lead me to the truth”. It turns into a MASSIVE fight, like huge, where the idea of divorce is thrown out and how “he can’t do this anymore”. He won’t stop with this. He does it all day, all night, he does it in comment sections and he gets AGGRESSIVE in those comment sections. He has no focus or interest in our family, in work, in providing, in getting ready for the baby. Only and just this singular topic and forcing me to agree with him. He said he prayed for me and God told him that there’s nothing he can do about me. He says I cause him severe stress and it’s ridiculous he can’t even fellowship with his own wife. He treats me like he treats the people online who disagree with him. I feel like crap most of the day. My bones hurt. My hips hurt. My body doesn’t feel great. Im exhausted, starving, uncomfortable, clothes don’t fit. This topic and hobby of his is just not a priority in my life. I’ve begged Jesus for help with this. I don’t know what else to do here. It’s causing severe SEVERE discord in our marriage to the point that I am constantly in tears and sleeping by myself and spending my days off and weekends alone in bed. I’m already stressed out with our financial situation and being this pregnant, I don’t like to be alone all the time. I’m sad and I feel he is probably going to eventually divorce me over this. Maybe I should just nod and agree with whatever he says no matter what just to keep the peace. It’s just difficult to be forced to agree to some of these things that come across as so hateful. I don’t care if he wants to believe this stuff, I just don’t want to be forced to verbally discuss it for hours and hours and provide rationales and argue with people over it or and discuss how dumb other Christian’s are for not seeing it. He will go on 1-2 hour long nonstop monologues about this stuff while I’m in the middle of something else and then get mad when i ask a question or disagree with it or don’t want to discuss it anymore. He used to go on 3-4 hour monologues so at least he cut it down a little bit. Aside from it all, I’m very pregnant, working full time and taking classes full time, doing all the laundry, cooking and cleaning, budgeting, paying bills, trying to plan how we’re going to survive, meal prepping..I’m tired and don’t really care who believes what right now. My focus is Jesus and doing what he did and what he asked, getting through this pregnancy, finding a way to support my family because I’m not sure I can depend on my husband for that anymore. Not finding out THE TRUTH about who eve had sex with or guessing who the Antichrist is. I’m too tired and busy for that. Christianity used to bring me massive peace and happiness. I would read Jesus’s words nightly and feel safe and happy. Now it’s getting such a negative association in my head due to this, it’s really affecting me badly, and yet he comes and tells me that it’s my behavior that is affecting him badly and causing his behavior. I don’t even want to bring up God anymore because it turns into this. I’m worried I will go into labor during one of these episodes that I won’t be able to ask him to come to the hospital and I’ll have to have my baby alone. I don’t know what to do or where to go with this. The stress is so bad I can’t even focus on what I need to get done and being pregnant makes it even harder to focus and get things done. I can’t take it anymore. Please pray for me or him or whoever needs it. And if you have any advice…I have literally nobody to talk to. Not even family. Nobody. Just him. Help me. I’m literally alone in bed right now and he’s ignoring me. This is the second day in a row I’m spending alone, yesterday it was because I said we couldn’t afford to spend money on something we didn’t need. He sulked and moped and acted short and mean until gave up and agreed he could buy it so that I didn’t have my weekend ruined. We bought it and It was fine for a few hours but then he went right back to his hobby and started up with some random Christian argument again while i was cooking him dinner and it’s lasted until today so I’m back in bed, alone, on my weekend. I am miserable.

Praying for you. Jesus please change this husband and restore this relationship. Bless the coming baby and provide enough money. Amen

 

[Anonymous]

I’m almost 9 months pregnant. I’m tired, im still working full time, I will work until I go into labor. I’m going to lose my job at the birth. We need my income, but we don’t get to keep it. I don’t have a car seat or a stroller, I have about 5 pairs of clothes for my baby for each age she will be, I don’t have a basinet, a crib, no furniture for her. My family sent me some diapers, a carrier and a pack and play that she will sleep in. I have a few toys for her. I have no postpartum supplies, no nursing bras, and I’ve bought almost no maternity clothes because we just can’t afford it. Nothing fits me anymore, I have barely any clothes that fit. To say I’m am stressed out is an understatement. My husband spends money like he’s rich. He just spent almost a thousand dollars on something we couldn’t afford. He bought it on credit. This is after he bought a new expensive luxury car on credit as well. My car is old and paid off. We have zero savings. He seems to not care at all that we have a baby coming he has no interest in what we have for her or don’t have, what the hospitals bills will be or how we’ll pay out bills. He spent the last 6 months sneaking marijuana and nicotine vapes, spending even 2k one month on random things, vapes, and marijuana. We’re supposed to move soon to another state, he is supposed to get a new job. I’m going to struggle to find a doctor that late, but it is what it is. I’m stressed about that too, I might just have to show up to a random hospital in labor. Aside from all this, the most stressful aspect is his obsession with some very particular religious beliefs. I’m Christian. He is Christian. But he spends the majority of his free time (95%) aggressively arguing with random people online about who the Israelites are, about how eve had sex with the serpent and Cain is not her son but is the literal son of the serpent and the father of all Jewish people. When he’s not arguing about it, he’s watching YouTube videos on it. When he comes home from work, he argues online while I cook dinner, then puts on YouTube videos on it while we eat dinner. Then goes back to arguing online after dinner. He says that there is guilt and shame in heaven, and since all Israelites are saved, all Israelites (white people) automatically go to heaven even if they’re atheist, they just will have to live forever in guilt and shame under all the believers who will know what they did and that they weren’t Christians on earth. He includes things like Bigfoot and mothman and cryptids live inside hollow earth that will come out at the end times and fight against the Israelites in the final war. That God hates esau so he hates all or most of his offspring. That demons are dead giants, the offspring of fallen angels who had sex with human women. There’s more. You get the idea. Then if he is challenged, he turns to me to argue with me about it. He states all of this as 100% fact, and when i try to ask questions, or say I don’t necessarily agree with something, he gets extremely defensive and aggressive, demanding I provide verses and their “original interpretations” and I “take it up with God” and “you don’t like Gods words that’s not my problem. It’s God you have a problem with” and that “I don’t love the truth”, or that I don’t respect him as the leader of our home, and he is just trying to steer his family into “the truth”, says he’s going to teach our children “the truth” (whatever he wants)regardless of what I want (I’ve never commented on what we will teach our children) and that I have an evil spirit in me that causes me to “disagree with him” (not believe what he believes), that he’s going to fellowship and teach other people who believe him and “want to learn” instead, and we’re just going to have a sad lukewarm marriage and that’s that and I have to just trust him to “lead me to the truth”. It turns into a MASSIVE fight, like huge, where the idea of divorce is thrown out and how “he can’t do this anymore”. He won’t stop with this. He does it all day, all night, he does it in comment sections and he gets AGGRESSIVE in those comment sections. He has no focus or interest in our family, in work, in providing, in getting ready for the baby. Only and just this singular topic and forcing me to agree with him. He said he prayed for me and God told him that there’s nothing he can do about me. He says I cause him severe stress and it’s ridiculous he can’t even fellowship with his own wife. He treats me like he treats the people online who disagree with him. I feel like crap most of the day. My bones hurt. My hips hurt. My body doesn’t feel great. Im exhausted, starving, uncomfortable, clothes don’t fit. This topic and hobby of his is just not a priority in my life. I’ve begged Jesus for help with this. I don’t know what else to do here. It’s causing severe SEVERE discord in our marriage to the point that I am constantly in tears and sleeping by myself and spending my days off and weekends alone in bed. I’m already stressed out with our financial situation and being this pregnant, I don’t like to be alone all the time. I’m sad and I feel he is probably going to eventually divorce me over this. Maybe I should just nod and agree with whatever he says no matter what just to keep the peace. It’s just difficult to be forced to agree to some of these things that come across as so hateful. I don’t care if he wants to believe this stuff, I just don’t want to be forced to verbally discuss it for hours and hours and provide rationales and argue with people over it or and discuss how dumb other Christian’s are for not seeing it. He will go on 1-2 hour long nonstop monologues about this stuff while I’m in the middle of something else and then get mad when i ask a question or disagree with it or don’t want to discuss it anymore. He used to go on 3-4 hour monologues so at least he cut it down a little bit. Aside from it all, I’m very pregnant, working full time and taking classes full time, doing all the laundry, cooking and cleaning, budgeting, paying bills, trying to plan how we’re going to survive, meal prepping..I’m tired and don’t really care who believes what right now. My focus is Jesus and doing what he did and what he asked, getting through this pregnancy, finding a way to support my family because I’m not sure I can depend on my husband for that anymore. Not finding out THE TRUTH about who eve had sex with or guessing who the Antichrist is. I’m too tired and busy for that. Christianity used to bring me massive peace and happiness. I would read Jesus’s words nightly and feel safe and happy. Now it’s getting such a negative association in my head due to this, it’s really affecting me badly, and yet he comes and tells me that it’s my behavior that is affecting him badly and causing his behavior. I don’t even want to bring up God anymore because it turns into this. I’m worried I will go into labor during one of these episodes that I won’t be able to ask him to come to the hospital and I’ll have to have my baby alone. I don’t know what to do or where to go with this. The stress is so bad I can’t even focus on what I need to get done and being pregnant makes it even harder to focus and get things done. I can’t take it anymore. Please pray for me or him or whoever needs it. And if you have any advice…I have literally nobody to talk to. Not even family. Nobody. Just him. Help me. I’m literally alone in bed right now and he’s ignoring me. This is the second day in a row I’m spending alone, yesterday it was because I said we couldn’t afford to spend money on something we didn’t need. He sulked and moped and acted short and mean until gave up and agreed he could buy it so that I didn’t have my weekend ruined. We bought it and It was fine for a few hours but then he went right back to his hobby and started up with some random Christian argument again while i was cooking him dinner and it’s lasted until today so I’m back in bed, alone, on my weekend. I am miserable.

Jesus make this family to be what You want it to be. Send you a short prayer for family protection.

 

[abundantlyblessed]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[EnricoLange]

Praying for you. Jesus please change this husband and restore this relationship. Bless the coming baby and provide enough money. Amen

Amen.

 

[Prayerangel1967]

I’m almost 9 months pregnant. I’m tired, im still working full time, I will work until I go into labor. I’m going to lose my job at the birth. We need my income, but we don’t get to keep it. I don’t have a car seat or a stroller, I have about 5 pairs of clothes for my baby for each age she will be, I don’t have a basinet, a crib, no furniture for her. My family sent me some diapers, a carrier and a pack and play that she will sleep in. I have a few toys for her. I have no postpartum supplies, no nursing bras, and I’ve bought almost no maternity clothes because we just can’t afford it. Nothing fits me anymore, I have barely any clothes that fit. To say I’m am stressed out is an understatement. My husband spends money like he’s rich. He just spent almost a thousand dollars on something we couldn’t afford. He bought it on credit. This is after he bought a new expensive luxury car on credit as well. My car is old and paid off. We have zero savings. He seems to not care at all that we have a baby coming he has no interest in what we have for her or don’t have, what the hospitals bills will be or how we’ll pay out bills. He spent the last 6 months sneaking marijuana and nicotine vapes, spending even 2k one month on random things, vapes, and marijuana. We’re supposed to move soon to another state, he is supposed to get a new job. I’m going to struggle to find a doctor that late, but it is what it is. I’m stressed about that too, I might just have to show up to a random hospital in labor. Aside from all this, the most stressful aspect is his obsession with some very particular religious beliefs. I’m Christian. He is Christian. But he spends the majority of his free time (95%) aggressively arguing with random people online about who the Israelites are, about how eve had sex with the serpent and Cain is not her son but is the literal son of the serpent and the father of all Jewish people. When he’s not arguing about it, he’s watching YouTube videos on it. When he comes home from work, he argues online while I cook dinner, then puts on YouTube videos on it while we eat dinner. Then goes back to arguing online after dinner. He says that there is guilt and shame in heaven, and since all Israelites are saved, all Israelites (white people) automatically go to heaven even if they’re atheist, they just will have to live forever in guilt and shame under all the believers who will know what they did and that they weren’t Christians on earth. He includes things like Bigfoot and mothman and cryptids live inside hollow earth that will come out at the end times and fight against the Israelites in the final war. That God hates esau so he hates all or most of his offspring. That demons are dead giants, the offspring of fallen angels who had sex with human women. There’s more. You get the idea. Then if he is challenged, he turns to me to argue with me about it. He states all of this as 100% fact, and when i try to ask questions, or say I don’t necessarily agree with something, he gets extremely defensive and aggressive, demanding I provide verses and their “original interpretations” and I “take it up with God” and “you don’t like Gods words that’s not my problem. It’s God you have a problem with” and that “I don’t love the truth”, or that I don’t respect him as the leader of our home, and he is just trying to steer his family into “the truth”, says he’s going to teach our children “the truth” (whatever he wants)regardless of what I want (I’ve never commented on what we will teach our children) and that I have an evil spirit in me that causes me to “disagree with him” (not believe what he believes), that he’s going to fellowship and teach other people who believe him and “want to learn” instead, and we’re just going to have a sad lukewarm marriage and that’s that and I have to just trust him to “lead me to the truth”. It turns into a MASSIVE fight, like huge, where the idea of divorce is thrown out and how “he can’t do this anymore”. He won’t stop with this. He does it all day, all night, he does it in comment sections and he gets AGGRESSIVE in those comment sections. He has no focus or interest in our family, in work, in providing, in getting ready for the baby. Only and just this singular topic and forcing me to agree with him. He said he prayed for me and God told him that there’s nothing he can do about me. He says I cause him severe stress and it’s ridiculous he can’t even fellowship with his own wife. He treats me like he treats the people online who disagree with him. I feel like crap most of the day. My bones hurt. My hips hurt. My body doesn’t feel great. Im exhausted, starving, uncomfortable, clothes don’t fit. This topic and hobby of his is just not a priority in my life. I’ve begged Jesus for help with this. I don’t know what else to do here. It’s causing severe SEVERE discord in our marriage to the point that I am constantly in tears and sleeping by myself and spending my days off and weekends alone in bed. I’m already stressed out with our financial situation and being this pregnant, I don’t like to be alone all the time. I’m sad and I feel he is probably going to eventually divorce me over this. Maybe I should just nod and agree with whatever he says no matter what just to keep the peace. It’s just difficult to be forced to agree to some of these things that come across as so hateful. I don’t care if he wants to believe this stuff, I just don’t want to be forced to verbally discuss it for hours and hours and provide rationales and argue with people over it or and discuss how dumb other Christian’s are for not seeing it. He will go on 1-2 hour long nonstop monologues about this stuff while I’m in the middle of something else and then get mad when i ask a question or disagree with it or don’t want to discuss it anymore. He used to go on 3-4 hour monologues so at least he cut it down a little bit. Aside from it all, I’m very pregnant, working full time and taking classes full time, doing all the laundry, cooking and cleaning, budgeting, paying bills, trying to plan how we’re going to survive, meal prepping..I’m tired and don’t really care who believes what right now. My focus is Jesus and doing what he did and what he asked, getting through this pregnancy, finding a way to support my family because I’m not sure I can depend on my husband for that anymore. Not finding out THE TRUTH about who eve had sex with or guessing who the Antichrist is. I’m too tired and busy for that. Christianity used to bring me massive peace and happiness. I would read Jesus’s words nightly and feel safe and happy. Now it’s getting such a negative association in my head due to this, it’s really affecting me badly, and yet he comes and tells me that it’s my behavior that is affecting him badly and causing his behavior. I don’t even want to bring up God anymore because it turns into this. I’m worried I will go into labor during one of these episodes that I won’t be able to ask him to come to the hospital and I’ll have to have my baby alone. I don’t know what to do or where to go with this. The stress is so bad I can’t even focus on what I need to get done and being pregnant makes it even harder to focus and get things done. I can’t take it anymore. Please pray for me or him or whoever needs it. And if you have any advice…I have literally nobody to talk to. Not even family. Nobody. Just him. Help me. I’m literally alone in bed right now and he’s ignoring me. This is the second day in a row I’m spending alone, yesterday it was because I said we couldn’t afford to spend money on something we didn’t need. He sulked and moped and acted short and mean until gave up and agreed he could buy it so that I didn’t have my weekend ruined. We bought it and It was fine for a few hours but then he went right back to his hobby and started up with some random Christian argument again while i was cooking him dinner and it’s lasted until today so I’m back in bed, alone, on my weekend. I am miserable.

Wow sorry to hear this...praying when you move he truly gets a better job. Also smoking marijuana is bad for air quality..make him at minimum go outside..does he not care you are pregnant..this whole business of ranting on and on about who are the real Israelites ..the serpent etc...... who cares.he should be focused on his wife and the family's financial survival..that is crazy !!!!... Praying God gives you peace in the middle of this madness in Jesus name .

 

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[The Encourager]

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.