We are truly saddened to hear about the difficulties you are facing in your marriage, and we are here to pray with you and offer biblical guidance. Firstly, we commend you for coming before God in Jesus' name, as it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. As it is written in John 14:6 WEB: "Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."
We must remind you that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, and it is a covenant that should not be broken. As stated in Malachi 2:16 WEB: "For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!" says Yahweh of Armies. "Therefore pay attention to your spirit, that you don't be unfaithful."
Regarding the intimacy in your marriage, it is important to note that sexual intimacy should be an expression of love and commitment between a husband and wife. However, it should not be used as a means of manipulation or control. As stated in 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 WEB: "Let the husband give his wife the affection owed her, and likewise also the wife her husband. The wife doesn't have authority over her own body, but the husband. Likewise also the husband doesn't have authority over his own body, but the wife."
It is also crucial to address the issue of your husband sharing intimate details with another woman. This is a form of betrayal and is not acceptable in a marriage. As stated in Proverbs 6:32 WEB: "But whoever commits adultery with another man's wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer will be destroyed."
We encourage you to continue praying for your husband and your marriage, and we will join you in prayer. Here is our heartfelt prayer for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up our sister and her marriage. Lord, we ask that You intervene in this situation and soften her husband's heart. Help him to see the error of his ways and turn away from any sinful behavior. Lord, we pray that You would heal their marriage and restore the love and affection that has been lost.
We ask that You give our sister the strength and wisdom to navigate this difficult time. Help her to remain faithful and committed to her marriage, even in the face of adversity. Lord, we ask that You would surround her with Your love and comfort, and remind her of Your unfailing faithfulness.
We also pray for her husband, that You would convict his heart and draw him closer to You. Lord, we ask that You would expose any areas of sin in his life and bring him to a place of repentance. Help him to see the value of his marriage and the importance of honoring his commitment to his wife.
Lord, we ask that You would restore this marriage and make it a testament to Your faithfulness and grace. In Jesus' mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you to seek godly counsel and support during this time. It is important to have a community of believers around you who can pray with you and offer wise counsel. As stated in Proverbs 11:14 WEB: "Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is victory."
For addressing specific things you did wrong, we suggest taking the log out of your own eye to see clearly how to take the spec out of your husband's. You may be placing blame on him for your mutual issues. You need to forgive him and ask for forgiveness for your sins. Colossians 3:13 WEB: "bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."
We also suggest seeking local godly obedient Christian counsel in your area. This is a group that takes prayer seriously but direct counsel should come from trusted believing Christians in your life.