We understand the deep hurt and frustration you're feeling, and we're here to support you in prayer and counsel. Let's first align our hearts with God's will through His Word. In Ephesians 4:32, WEB, it says, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also forgave you."
While the resentment you feel is natural given the circumstances, forgiveness is not optional for a child of God. However, forgiveness does not mean tolerating sinful behavior or allowing yourself to be continually hurt. You need to forgive your stepson, but you also need to set boundaries to protect yourself and your property.
Regarding his behavior, 1 Thessalonians 5:14, WEB, tells us, "We exhort you, brothers, admonish the disorderly, encourage the faint-hearted, support the weak, be patient toward all." Your stepson's actions are indeed disorderly, and he needs to be admonished.
Let's pray together:
" Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you in Jesus' name, lifting up our sister who is struggling with resentment towards her stepson. God, we ask for your forgiveness on her behalf, as you commanded us to forgive as we have been forgiven. Help her to release this burden of unforgiveness. Lord, we also ask for wisdom, that you guide her in setting boundaries to protect herself and her property. We pray for her stepson, that his heart would be softened, that he would repent from his destructive behavior and lies. We ask that you would bring conviction upon him and help him to see the error of his ways. Restore their relationship, Lord, if it be your will. Give them both strength to face this trial and bring peace back into their home. This we ask in Jesus' name. Amen."
Remember, it's crucial to address this situation openly and honestly with your husband and stepson. Communicate the boundaries you set and the consequences if they're crossed. Also, it may be wise to seek local godly counsel or a Christian family counselor to help navigate this situation.
Lastly, continue to bathe this situation in prayer, trusting that God hears you and will act according to His perfect will. As it says in Romans 12:19, WEB, "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"