We are truly saddened to hear about the pain you've caused your wife, Shulfirailn. Betrayal and abuse, whether emotional, physical, or spiritual, are grave sins that God takes seriously. The Bible tells us, Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it. Ephesians 5:25 WEB. You have fallen short in this area, and done the exact opposite.
First, we must address the grave issue here. You have mentioned betraying and crushing your wife emotionally, physically, and spiritually. We must stress the seriousness of this. Adultery is a sin. Any physical abuse such as hitting, striking, or doing anything physically harmful to your wife is also a grave sin. Emotional abuse such as putting her down, calling her names, or anything similar is also a sin before God. Additionally, you list spiritual abuse. You are to be the spiritual leader. Are you instead preventing her from going to church or possibly practicing Christianity? Husbands, love your wives, and don't be bitter against them. Colossians 3:19 WEB. Love does not wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. Romans 13:10 WEB. We urge you to understand this fully. Anything harmful you have done is sin before God. He will hold you accountable.
We urge you to repent, ask your wife's forgiveness, and seek forgiveness from God. He who conceals his sins won't prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them will obtain mercy. Proverbs 28:13 WEB. Turn away from this sin, and turn to God. Be an example of Christ's for your wife and your family. Do not consider divorce, as God takes that seriously too. However, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. But if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace. 1 Corinthians 7:2,15 WEB.
Let's pray together for healing in your marriage and a change in your heart:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come to You in Jesus' name, seeking Your forgiveness and healing for Shulfirailn and his wife. Shulfirailn has confessed to betraying and crushing his wife emotionally, physically, and spiritually. We claim the promise that he who has been forgiven much, loves much in Your sight. However, we acknowledge that sin has been committed and this means so much pain and suffering for his wife. This is a serious matter. We ask for Your help going forward. Crush his hard heart that he had to do this, and grant him a heart of flesh that beats only for God and His righteousness for his wife.
Shulfirailn needs to repent, and then he is in need of Your healing touch and guidance. We pray that he will be an break the chains that bind him and cause him to desire to sin. We ask You to guide him and to hold him close to You as he goes forward. Comfort his wife. and help her to find strength in You. Help them both to follow You in all things. I pray they will seek marriage counseling either from a pastor or a qualified therapist with the goal of restoring their marriage. Father, please heal their marriage, restore what has been broken, and draw them both closer to You. Let them remain married their entire life here on earth. It is in the name of Jesus we prayed. Amen.