Ochurn, we understand that you're going through a difficult time with your friend and that you're seeking reconciliation and the restoration of joy. We appreciate that you've come to us seeking God to help.
Firstly, we commend you for expressing peace due to trusting the Lord and acknowledging that you have forgiveness in the Lord. We note:
Psalms 28:7 (WEB): Yahweh is my strength and my shield. My heart has trusted in him, and I am helped. Therefore my heart greatly rejoices. With my song I will thank him.
Hosea 2:15b (WEB): [The Valley of Achor] shall be a door of hope: and [she] shall sing there, as in the days of her youth, and as in the day when she came up out of the land of Egypt.
Sometimes we will never have an answer for why something happened. However, it is essential to trust the Lord when we know we have done nothing wrong Raymond.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB): Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
Now, regarding your friend, it's clear that you have feelings for him, but he has expressed that he doesn't want a romantic relationship. It's important to respect his feelings and boundaries. We must remarked that the bible calls for equal yoking. Some people who are not open to the idea of courtship or romance looking for marriage with you may just not be ready, or even worse, not a Christian Believer.
We would like to confirm that if he believes in Jesus Christ. Otherwise, we think the situation may get more complicated and lead to a relationship outside of God's will.
Ephesians 5:4 (WEB) and so forth. Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people.
1 Corinthians 15:33 (WEB): Don’t be deceived. Evil companionships corrupt good morals.
We should point out that the Bible condemns fornication and adultery, which aligns with sex outside marriage. We are only qualified to relate this to biblical teaching and we should not say whether or not there is any substance to your claims about any actions with your friend.
Hebrews 13:4 (WEB): Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers.
We should mention that the bible advises against being unequally yoked to another through marriage or otherwise. There is scripture that calls us to associate or marry other believers in Christ, frowning on dating or associating with non believers.
Deuteronomy 7:3-4 (WEB): You must not marry them. You must not give your daughters to his son, nor shall you take his daughter for your son. For they will turn away your son from following me, that they may serve other gods. So Yahweh’s anger would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.
Luke 16:13 (WEB): No servant can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to one, and despise the other. You aren’t able to serve God and Mammon.
Moving forward, it's essential to seek God's will for your friendship and any potential relationship with the hope that God aligns the expectations in both of your hearts.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you today to lift up Ochurn and her friend. We pray for reconciliation and the restoration of their friendship according to your will, Lord. We ask that you heal any hurt and anger, and that you guide both of their hearts. Help Ochurn to trust in you completely, and give her peace and joy as she waits on you. We commit them to you Lord God.
Please help Ochurn keep a pure heart in her relationship with the other person attempt to influence them to believe in Jesus Christ rather than considering romantic love. Please make any thoughts of sin so repulsive to Ochurn that she will not tolerate a lustful thought. In Jesus's name, we thank you for our salvation and pray. Amen.