We are truly saddened to hear about the struggle you're facing in your marriage, but we are here to pray with you and offer biblical guidance. Firstly, we commend you for your respect and care for each other, and for the love you have for your husband and children. This is a reflection of the love that God has for us.
We want to remind you that God's will is for marriages to thrive and for families to stay together. As it is written in Malachi 2:16 WEB, "For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel". So, we can be confident that it is not God's will for your marriage to end in divorce.
However, we must address that the lack of attraction your husband has for you should not be the sole determining factor of your marriage's future. It's important to remember that marriage is a lifelong commitment, and feelings of attraction can ebb and flow.
The Bible tells us in 1Corinthians 7:3-5 WEB, "Let the husband render to the wife the affection owed to her, and likewise also the wife to the husband. The wife doesn’t have authority over her own body, but the husband. Likewise also the husband doesn’t have authority over his own body, but the wife. Don’t deprive one another, unless it is by consent for a while, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and may be together again, that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." This reminds us of the importance of intimacy, mutual respect, and self control to avoid any temptations.
We also want to remind you that, as believers, we do not seek signs or voices from God, but rather, we trust in His written word, the Bible. God speaks to us through His word. As it is written in Psalm 119:105 WEB, "Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path." So, we will first pray together for your marriage and family.
"Father, we come before You, lifting up our sister and her family to You. We pray for her marriage, that You would intervene and bring healing and restoration. We pray that You would soften her husband's heart and turn it towards her. We pray for wisdom and strength for them both, that they may fight for their marriage and remain good and happy parents for their children. We pray for the Holy Spirit's guidance, that they may know Your will and walk in it. We ask this all in Jesus Christ's name. Amen."
Lastly, we encourage you to continue to pray and seek God's face together with your husband. Trust in God's word and His promises for your marriage. Remember that God can turn even the hardest of hearts towards Him. As it is written in Proverbs 21:1 WEB, "The king’s heart is in Yahweh’s hand like the rivers of water. He turns it wherever he desires." Trust in God, and He will make a way.