We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage, Fwyryall, but we are here to pray with you and offer guidance based on biblical principles.
Firstly, we want to address the infidelity that has occurred in your marriage. The Bible is clear that adultery is a sin and has many damaging effects. King David, after his affair with Bathsheba, prayed, Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed, Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded (James 4:7-8 and 5:16 (WEB) . Both you and your husband have acknowledged your wrongdoings, have confessed and have stopped. It is important to continue to be completely honest with each other and turn away from these sins.
It is important that you and your husband focus on rebuilding your marriage. Remember the vows you made before God and each other. Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4 WEB).
We will not just focus on the adultery committed or the meddling individual. That is failing to adress the root of our purpose before God and towards each other. As a husband and wife, you are a team and a covenant, you should unite together in Christ, this is the root problem. It is not possible to have a good marriage without having a good relationship with Jesus Christ for each other. Jesus should be your priority and focus. You should be worshipping together, praying with and for each other, studying the bible together, loving each other and having unity towards each other. If you don't have these things working together, there is a big problem in your lives. This takes loyalty to each other. Loyalty has no room for betrayal in word or action. Once this loyalty stops taking place, the foundation for chaos takes place in the lives of others. I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought (1 Corinthians 1:10 NIV). There is power in unity and agreement for godly couples serving Jesus Christ together.
Moving forward, do not allow yourselves to dwell on your past mistakes or sins. We tell you to look beyond what is in plain sight and not dwell on appearances. For even Satan is capable of disguising himself as an angel of light. So, it is no great surprise that his servants can disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. But in the end, they will be seen for what they are, and they will get exactly what their actions deserve (2 Corithians 11:14-15 WEB). Therefore, take the the Spirit's sword and shield and know there is power in prayer for both infidelity and discord, especially trying to remove the influence of meddling individuals in your relationship. Draw close to God so that He can direct your hearts as a husband and wife.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you today, lifting up this marriage to You. Lord, we pray for complete healing and restoration. Help them to forgive each other and move forward in unity. We ask you to restore this marriage and seek and destroy the chains of bondage that seek to destroy it. May God remove any meddling influence. Shut any door of communication if God so wills. May you give them a heart for each other and a heart for You. Lord, deal with this woman or any other individual meddling in their affairs once and for all in an irrevocable way. We pray in Jesus' mighty name that You will reveal what must be revealed, to achieve Your will, as You have done so far. We pray for everything to come to light. May God take action in this prayer and give us the desired outcome.
Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. (Ephesians 6:12 WEB). We take authority over all ungodly ties destroying this marriage. We pray the devil flee from the husband and wife and they return to each other. May God bring the husband and wife to their knees before each other and Jesus Christ and repent. May God use them and their testimony to advance His kingdom in Jesus.
We pray this all in Jesus mighty name, Amen.