Please pray for my marriage

[BeccahDianne0514]

My husband (Brett) and I (Beccah) have been together for almost 15yrs (married 2.5yrs) and have 2 wonderful children together. This past year or so has been the most difficult and challenging season of our relationship yet. We have both made mistakes, we have both done damage to our relationship, but we both very much love each other. We were both raised up very differently. He had a rough childhood with no father involved, a drug addicted mother (thankfully recovered for a long while now), 2 siblings both from different fathers, and at one point being bounced around in foster care. This upbringing lead him to make poor choices that negatively affected his life such as doing drugs, dropping out of highschool (although he did obtain his GED), stealing and other illegal activities that led him in and out of jail over time and even prison for a year (I met him after all this drama occurred). Although my parents divorced when I was just 11 weeks old, I was brought up in the church and raised as a Christian thanks to my dad. My mom was more materialistic and had more of a transactional type relationship (you do something for her and THEN she would do something for you, you act the way she wants and THEN she will assume you're worthy of love). I lived with my mom most of my childhood, moving from apartment to apartment, from school to school, almost every single year which made it hard for me to make/keep friends which I think is where my abandonment issues come from. Basically, we both have unresolved childhood trauma that affects us today. Recently my husband and I both have been dealing with issues such as poor communication, broken trust, and bitterness/resentment towards one another. On top of that, my husband is currently dealing with alcohol and gambling addiction, he's aware of the problem but tries to minimize the severity of the addictions most of the time. In my late teens and 20's, I constantly strayed to and from my relationship with God. I am saved and baptized, I 100% know that Jesus died on the cross for my salvation and I know that God will keep his promise and accept me into the Kingdom of Heaven as long as I believe in Him, ask Jesus to come into my heart, repent for my sins, and surrender my life to Him. The part that I have struggled with in my faith is totally surrendering my life and living for God's glory and not my own will. And just like most people of faith, when life gets rough we turn to God for help. In this past year, I have been more connected in my relationship with God and putting in more effort than I ever have to live for him by my actions and behavior (trying to bear that good fruit); going to church, volunteering to help at church, going to church member meetings, attending Bible study, reading and studying my Bible, praying multiple times every day, talking to my husband more about God and how He wants us to live out our lives for Him (Brett expresses mild interest when I talk about my faith but doesn't really strive to create a strong relationship with God, but if I ask him to pray for us before our meals he will, and just recently I've asked him if I could pray with him and agreed). I'm asking for prayers that Brett and I may learn a more effective and healthier way of communication. That we may treat each other with love, kindness, patience and respect especially in times of anger. To soften our hearts so we may have better understanding of one another's needs and a desire to meet those needs, to let go of any unforgiveness we may hold against our spouse for past hurts and betrayals. Please pray to help us put God above all else and to glorify Him in all decisions we make. Pray that God would find favor to reconcile our marriage covenant and strengthen our union. I also ask to pray for the strength that Brett needs to overcome the hold that addiction has over him. Fill my husband with the Holy Spirit of God and wisdom of Your will.
Eternal God and forever-wise Father, today I submit my marriage to You, that Your will be done, whatever it may be. I humbly ask of You to spread this message through this community so that my brothers and sisters in Christ see my prayer requests and help pray along side me, for You said in Matthew 18:19 "Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven", and I know that You will honor your promise. Most importantly, I want to thank You for all You have done in and continue to do in my life. I praise You for all the ways You have blessed my family and I. Thank you Lord, in Jeses' name, AMEN.

 

[Articles]

We understand that you and your husband, Brett, are going through a challenging season in your marriage. With almost 15 years together and two wonderful children, it's important to seek God's help and guidance to strengthen your union and overcome the trials you face.

Firstly, we commend you, Beccah, for your faith and efforts to grow closer to God. It's encouraging to see your commitment to prayer, studying the Bible, and attending church activities. As it says in James 4:8, "Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you." Your spiritual growth is crucial, not only for your personal walk with Christ but also for your marriage.

However, we want to address some concerns and provide biblical guidance. Both of you have acknowledged past mistakes and the need for better communication, trust, and forgiveness. It's crucial to remember that God has called us to love one another as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). This love involves patience, kindness, and selflessness, even in times of anger and disagreement.

Regarding Brett's struggles with alcohol and gambling addiction, it's important to approach this issue with love, understanding, and firmness. Encourage him to seek help and accountability. Galatians 6:1 tells us, "Brothers, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; looking to yourself, lest you also be tempted." Pray fervently for his deliverance and be supportive in his journey towards sobriety.

We also want to address the spiritual dynamic in your marriage. It's wonderful that Brett is open to prayer and expresses mild interest in your faith. However, it's crucial for both of you to strive for a strong relationship with God. As it says in 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity?" Encourage Brett to seek God wholeheartedly, and pray for his spiritual growth.

Let's pray together:

*Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You today to lift up Brett and Beccah's marriage. We ask for Your divine intervention and guidance in their lives. Help them to communicate effectively, to forgive one another, and to love each other with Your unfailing love. Lord, we pray for Brett's deliverance from addiction and for Beccah's continued spiritual growth. Fill their hearts with Your Holy Spirit, and help them to put You above all else. We claim Your promise in Matthew 18:19, that if two of us agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by our Father in heaven. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.*

Stay strong in your faith and continue to seek God's will for your marriage. Trust in His goodness and sovereignty, for He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).

 

[hostadmin]

Hey Beccah,

We're right there with you, praying for your marriage with Brett. It's been a tough year, hasn't it? But remember, God is right there with you both, every step of the way.

We want to encourage you, Beccah, to keep up the good work. Your commitment to God and your faith is inspiring. Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and keep trusting. Your efforts to draw closer to God are not going unnoticed. As it says in Jeremiah 29:13, "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart."

Now, let's talk about Brett. We know he's struggling, and we're not going to minimize that. Addiction is a tough battle, but it's one that can be won. We want to encourage you to keep praying for him, to keep loving him, and to keep holding him accountable. Remember, tough love is still love. As it says in Proverbs 3:12, "For those whom the Lord loves he disciplines, and he scourges everyone he receives as a son."

And Beccah, we want to encourage you to keep sharing your faith with Brett. Keep talking to him about God, about Jesus, about the difference they've made in your life. Keep inviting him to church, to Bible study, to prayer. Keep praying for him, side by side. As it says in Romans 12:12, "Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer."

Let's keep lifting you and Brett up in prayer. Let's ask God to heal your marriage, to strengthen your bond, and to help you both to grow in Him. Let's ask God to give Brett the strength he needs to overcome his addictions, and to give you both the wisdom and understanding you need to navigate this difficult time.

Keep trusting, keep praying, and keep loving. God is with you, Beccah. He's got this. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[meena_]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Nyrwaynn]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[APJ]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.