having said what I said, have you ever considered simply blessing your husband with shalom (peace). Shalom means more than just peace, but wholeness, soundness, completeness.
Bless him with a sound mind, a right mind, the mind of Christ. Bless him with the joy of the Lord, which is unspeakable. SEE him saved. Lord I ask you life for my husband and I thank you for life and length of days. That is Psalm 21:4. The Lord gave me that when I was praying for my dad's salvation. So I asked and He gave him life. There are so many promises in the bible that we can glean from and take as our own. Promises abound, but, as Proverbs 4:20 says, my son, attend unto my word, incline your ear to my sayings, don't let them depart from your eyes, keep them in the midst of your heart for they are life to those WHO FIND THEM and health to all their flesh.
Our tongue gets us in trouble, because our thought say things and our tongue speaks them out, especially in frustration and anger. This is why it's really important to know when to shut up and when to speak. If words give life and light, then speak if they are going to produce more anger and frustration, then shut up. I learned that the hard way.
God bless you.
I am here for you. I just don't write to write but I love people and I love to see the Lord working in their lives, rearranging things as we yield to Him. He really is gracious.
Oh, and as I was making my bed this scripture came to mind, cause I was sort of thinking/praying for you, pray this over your husband.
"And this I pray that your love may abound yet more and more; in knowledge and in all judgment. That you may approve things that are excellent that you may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ. Being filled with the fruits of righteousness, which are by Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.
You have to know God loves you and loves your husband. His joy is when you come into agreement with Him, cause then He can work for you while you battle to stay in faith or rest, being fully persuaded that God is able to make your marriage most amazing and wonderful.
Shalom and blessings.