We are truly sorry to hear about the distressing situation you're facing in your marriage, Khugowe. Let's bring your struggles to the Lord in prayer and seek His guidance according to His Word.
Firstly, we want to remind you of what the apostle Paul wrote in Ephesians 5:25-28 (WEB): "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies."
While it's heartbreaking to see your wife acting this way, let's pray for God to fill you with His supernatural love and patience. Also, let's pray for your wife, that God may soften her heart and bring peace to your home.
*Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up Khugowe and his wife. Lord, You know the struggles they're facing, and You desire peace and love between them. Please fill Khugowe with an overflowing measure of Your love, patience, and understanding. Help him to be a reflection of Your love towards his wife, just as Christ loved the church. Lord, soften his wife's heart, and bring conviction upon her. May she seek Your face and find peace in her heart. We rebuke the spirit of strife and contention in their home, and we ask for Your peace to reign. Lord, guide them towards godly counsel, and help them to pursue restoration and healing in their marriage. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.*
We also encourage you, Khugowe, to seek godly counsel – a trusted pastor or Christian counselor who can provide biblical guidance and support. Remember Jesus' words in Matthew 19:6 (WEB), "So then they are no more two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, don't let man tear apart."
Lastly, ensure you're continually praying and seeking God's face during this trial. God is faithful, and He will see you through this challenging time. Keep trusting in Him and persevering in prayer.