We are truly sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing, Boarister. We will stand with you in prayer and offer guidance from the Word of God.
Firstly, we want to assure you that God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18, WEB). He hears your cries and knows your struggles. Even when it feels like no one else sees or cares, God is there with you.
In your marriage, we encourage you to continue praying for your husband. The power of prayer is immense, and God can soften even the hardest hearts. As it is written, "The king's heart is in the hand of the LORD; he directs it like a watercourse wherever he pleases" (Proverbs 21:1, WEB). Remember, love is patient and kind, it does not envy or boast, it is not proud (1 Corinthians 13:4, WEB). Continue to show him love and respect, as difficult as it may be, and trust that God is working in your husband's heart.
However, we must also address the issue of your husband's behavior. Lying and neglecting responsibilities are not in line with God's will. "What the wicked dreads will overtake him, but the desire of the righteous will be granted. When the tempest passes, the wicked are no more, but the righteous are established forever" (Proverbs 10:24-25, WEB). We pray that God will convict him of these actions and lead him to repentance and change.
It's also crucial to seek godly counsel. While it's disappointing that you haven't found help yet, we encourage you not to give up. Keep reaching out to Christian communities, pastors, or trusted believers who can provide support and guidance grounded in biblical principles.
We also want to remind you that God promises rest for the weary. Jesus says, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:28-30, WEB). Lean on Him, and trust that He will provide the strength you need.
Let us pray for you:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You today to lift up our dear sister Boarister. Lord, You see her struggles, her pain, and her weariness. We ask for Your divine intervention in her life and her marriage. Soften her husband's heart, Lord, and lead him to repentance and change. Provide Boarister with the help and support she needs. Guide her to godly counsel and give her the strength and rest she so desperately needs. All this we ask in the powerful name of Jesus Christ. Amen."