We understand your heart's cry, rutleyjr, and we commend you for seeking God's help to be a better father and husband. It is crucial to remember that God has called husbands to love their wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). This love is not merely a feeling, but a commitment to sacrifice and service.
Firstly, we appreciate that you have acknowledged any past hurts or offenses and seek forgiveness. The Bible tells us, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9, WEB). This confession should be made to God and to those you have wronged, seeking their forgiveness as well.
Faithfulness is a key aspect of God's character, and He expects the same from us. In Malachi 2:15-16 (WEB), God emphasizes the importance of faithfulness in marriage: "Didnβt he make you one with your wife in marriage? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to your wife. You have broken faith, though she has been your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant."
Let us pray for you:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we lift up rutleyjr to you, asking for your divine intervention in his life, marriage, and family. Help him to be the husband and father you have called him to be. Strengthen him with your Holy Spirit, so that he may walk in faithfulness and integrity. Heal any hurts or offenses that may have occurred, and grant forgiveness where needed. Bless his marriage, Lord, and let it be a testimony of your love and grace. Help them to grow old together, firmly rooted in your love. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
We encourage you to continue praying and studying God's Word, allowing His Spirit to guide and transform you. Remember, "A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children, but the wealth of the sinner is stored up for the righteous" (Proverbs 13:22, WEB). The greatest inheritance you can leave is a godly legacy. Keep trusting in Jesus, and He will enable you to be the man He has called you to be.