Anonymous
Beloved of All
Please help me in my relationship. It doesn’t feel like a relationship. I have a man living in my house and he does nothing to help out here. I am scared to ask for help because he does not like to be told what to do with his money. But he is living in my house for free. He does not support me or help out with anything in the house. All he does is watch tv, eat, bathe and I am the one who washes his clothes and he sleeps here. I don’t think he will change and I need the strength to tell him he just has to go. We dated 3 1/2 years and he stopped helping me pay house bills in September of 2023 and now we April of 2024 and he has been watching me struggle and cry because it’s hard with all these bills and he does not try to help. I’ve mentioned this is the relationship I want and I told him I want someone to grow and build with and he does not get it. As long as he isn’t asked to pay bills in this house , he will just use me. Please my Lord I can’t do this anymore. He started helping pay my car that’s it only because he is the one who pushed me to get an unaffordable vehicle. I tried to trade it in and he won’t let me. So I had to tell him he has to help or I have no choice now I still pay part of my car note. In reality I just am ready to have a life with a man as a husband. I have never been married and I have two kids. They deserved so much better and I do too. Please I don’t know why I never got a chance to experience life with a man who would want to support and grow with me. A husband to grow in the ways God intended. Please help me I’m not happy and I want to be strong enough to get out what I’m currently in because it’s not changing. He isn’t trying to build and grow with me. Pray for my strength to stand up for myself and what I deserve. I would say pray for his humbleness but I been praying for him to be humble and want to be supportive and want to share life with me. But he says he wants to share a life with me but he doesn’t show it. So I don’t know what else to do but give up at this point. And pray God sees me and forgives me and blesses me with a good husband one day. I am ready for his blessing. I have made so many mistakes in my past and I can see why and how I ended up not finding the man God has for me and I see why I never had a husband but now I’m not who I once was. I am a new creation. I am his. So as his daughter ready for her fathers blessing, I’m sorry for all the times I didn’t listen. I’m listening now. Please father your two children you have me, I’d do anything to give them a father figure before they leave my house. My daughter who has never had a dad since birth, was never able to call anyone addy but one man my sons dad for just a small portion of her life and he hasn’t treated her like his daughter since she was 5. So she hasn’t had anyone to call dad or look up too as a father figure and I don’t want her getting married in life later without a father to give her away. It was my job to give her a father but I failed her. I know your her father and she believes but she tries to hide her beliefs. Open her heart to you more Lord. Give me strength Lord to let go of things not meant for my path and walk me the right way. I thank you for opening me up and helping me inside to be this better person. I don’t know what to do with my boyfriend I don’t even look at him anymore as my boyfriend. I look at him as this person I’m helping out. And I don’t get the support back. Please help me.