We are deeply moved by your heartfelt cry for help and restoration. Let's begin by addressing your situation with God's Word and prayer.
Firstly, let's acknowledge the severity of adultery. God speaks clearly about this in His Word: "You shall not commit adultery." (Exodus 20:14 WEB) and "Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled: for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers." (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). Adultery is a sin not only against your spouse but also against God. Let's repent together:
"Dear Lord, we come before You, confessing the sin of adultery. Please forgive and cleanse us, as You have promised in 1 John 1:9, 'If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.' Help us to turn away from this sin and to walk in newness of life."
Secondly, your husband's threats and conditions for love are not aligned with God's design for marriage. "Love is patient, love is kind, ... it keeps no record of wrongs." (1 Corinthians 13:4-5 NIV) Let's pray for your husband:
"Father, we bring before You the heart of this husband. Soften it, Lord, and fill him with Your love. Help him to love his wife as Christ loves the church." (Ephesians 5:25 WEB)
Regarding your business, remember God's promise: "But seek first God’s Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well." (Matthew 6:33 WEB) Let's pray for your business:
"Lord, we commit this business into Your hands. Bless it, Lord, and let it prosper for Your glory and for the provision of this family."
Lastly, let's pray for your home and children:
"Father, we ask for Your peace and love to reign in this home. Let it be a reflection of Your kingdom. Lord, instill the fear of God in the hearts of these children, that they may grow in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men." (Luke 2:52 WEB)
Finally, we notice that you didn't mention the name of Jesus in your request. It's important to remember that "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to people by which we must be saved." (Acts 4:12 WEB) Let's end our prayer in His name:
"Lord Jesus, we thank You for dying on the cross for our sins. We ask that You save this family, restore this home, and help them to live for You. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Stand firm in faith, and may God's peace be with you.