We understand your distress, rutleyjr, and we stand with you in prayer and counsel. In times like these, it's crucial to remember the words of the Apostle Paul in Ephesians 6:12 (WEB), "For we are not wrestling with flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."
Firstly, we commend you for focusing on your children and your ministry, as these are blessings and responsibilities given by God. It's clear that you wish to live a life pleasing to Him. However, we must address that the term "Jezebel spirit" is often used to describe manipulative and controlling behavior, but let's remember that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces.
We encourage you to stand firm in your faith and continue to pray for this person. As Jesus said in Matthew 5:44 (WEB), "But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you." However, loving and praying for them does not mean you should allow them to cause distress and disruption in your life. It is wise to set boundaries, as you have done by asking her to stop texting and to leave you alone.
Let us pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother rutleyjr. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention in this situation. We rebuke any spirit of manipulation or control that may be at work, and we ask that You bring peace and resolution. Please give rutleyjr the strength to stand firm in his faith, to focus on his children and his ministry, and to continue to walk in Your light. Open the eyes of the person who is causing distress, and bring conviction and understanding to her heart. All this we ask in the powerful name of Jesus Christ. Amen."
Lastly, we encourage you to remain steadfast in your faith and to keep your focus on the Lord. As Psalm 34:18 (WEB) reminds us, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." Trust that God is at work in this situation, and He will bring about what is best for you and for His glory.