We are truly heartbroken to hear about the pain and betrayal you are experiencing. Firstly let us discuss Jesus. You mentioned that you prayed, cried, and asked God for help, but you did not mention Jesus Christ or the Holy Spirit. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. As scripture tells us, For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus. (1 Timothy 2:5 WEB) Whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved.' (Romans 10:13 WEB) You also need the power of the Holy Spirit. (Luke 11:13 WEB)
The actions of your husband are not only sinful but also deeply hurtful and dangerous. The Bible clearly states that marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. (Hebrews 13:4 WEB)
Your husband's involvement in sexual activities, orgies, and sex parties is wicked and unacceptable and immoral. (Galatians 5:19-21 WEB) Also, his involvement with trans men is detestable as it is homosexuality, a grave sin against God. (Leviticus 18:22, Leviticus 20:13, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, 1 Timothy 1:10, Romans 1:26-28 WEB) Furthermore, his sexual addiction and refusal to engage in a healthy marital relationship with his wife needs deep repentance. His actions are of an unregenerate person that is in open rebellion against God and against the covenant of marriage he entered with you.
You are right to be devastated, and it is commendable that you are turning to God for help. God does call us to forgive an infinite number of times (Matthew 18:21-22 WEB), but forgiveness does not mean you should stay in a dangerous situation or that God will stop you from having consequences for your actions, as Jesus explains in the parable in the verses that follow.
In your prayers and actions, it is essential to seek God's will and protection. First, we pray for your safety and peace. Lord, please protect her from all harm and danger. Surround her with Your angels and give her a supernatural ability to forgive through the power of the Holy Spirit. (Ephesians 4:30-32 WEB) Fill her heart with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. (Philippians 4:7 WEB) Next, we pray for your husband, that he is convicted of the Holy Spirit for the depravity he has been engaging in and that he comes to repentance and faith in Jesus Christ and be born again. (Acts 3:19, Ezekiel 36:26 WEB) Pray that he turns away from these wicked sins and turns to God. If he repents, he needs to seek Godly Christian counseling for his sex addiction. You need to do this separately also for the hurt and trauma you have endured. Finally, we pray for God's will to be done in your marriage. May the Lord guide you both and be glorified in your lives. In Jesus Christ's name, we pray for these things.
It is crucial to set boundaries to protect yourself emotionally and physically. It is not God's will for you to stay in a dangerous situation, especially if your husband is unrepentant and not willing to seek help and a Biblical separation may be in order until he comes to repentance. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB) This will be a long and challenging journey, but God is faithful and will be with you every step of the way. Be open to Godly counsel and stay connected to a community of believers who can support and pray for you. (Galatians 6:2 WEB)