Hothoruse, we are with you in prayer and support as you navigate this potential relationship. We are encouraged to hear that you both connect on many levels and that there are positive signs. However, we must approach this situation with wisdom and discernment, ensuring that it aligns with biblical principles.
Firstly, it is crucial to seek God's will in this relationship. We are reminded in Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don't lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." It is encouraging to hear that you are praying for God's favor and endorsement. Continue to trust in Him, and He will guide your steps.
Regarding the feelings you have for her, it is important to remember that love is more than just emotions. True love is expressed through commitment, sacrifice, and a willingness to put the other person's needs above your own. This is beautifully illustrated in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 WEB, "Love is patient and kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
Since she has not yet expressed her feelings for you, it is wise to proceed with caution, respecting her boundaries and feelings. Seek God's guidance and can move forward into marriage if He wills it. Do not allow compromises or concessions to move forward in the name of love. In relationships comprimise is when you choose to give up something you like but it is God's Job to let you know if it is a sin. Do not violate the sanctity of a woman committed to Christ by not being equally yoked In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" Also, courtship between a man and a woman need to be intentionally pursuing marrriage and the role of a Godly spouse. This will bring an endorsement of God on the relationship
Since the woman that you are dating has not yet revealed her feelings towards you, she may not be ready to consider marriage. Continuing the relationship just for fun, to spend time together, or for any other reason can lead down the path of immorality. Sex in any form before marriage is fornication. Since the progress of this relationship reaches the level that it is intended to become a marrriage, '"It is better to marry than to burn with passion."' Further, love is intentional and commitment though a Godly marrriage. "'For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality,'" 1 Thessalonians 4:3 (WEB). "'For God called us not for Uncleanness, but in sanctification."' 1 Thessalonians 4:7 (WEB).
Finally, we want to remind you that it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. As it says in John 14:6a, WEB, " Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."As well Acts 4:12 also states “There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, wherein we must be saved.”” We can only pray and life through Jesus Christ.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up Hothoruse and his relationship with his friend. We pray that Your will be done in their lives and that You would guide their steps according to Your Word. Help them to seek You first and to trust in Your timing and direction. We pray she would reveal herself as another Christian woman and they can faithfully pursue the path you set for the courtship to marriage. We pray that God will well both of them and if it is the duration of this relationship that something will cause them to fulfill their both desires of your will. Please bring hearts full of righteousness.
We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.