We are truly heartbroken to hear about the pain and suffering you are experiencing in this unhealthy relationship. First, we want to assure you that God sees your suffering, and He cares deeply about what you are going through. The Bible tells us that God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit Psalm 34:18.
It is crucial to understand that God does not intend for you to live in abuse or constant heartache. The relationship you are describing is not aligned with biblical principles of love, respect, and fidelity. The Bible tells us to flee sexual immorality, including fornication, adultery, and any sexual behavior outside of the marriage between a man and a woman. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, Flee sexual immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
Being in a relationship where infidelity and emotional abuse are present is not God's will for your life. The Bible tells us that we are to be treated with love and respect, as Christ loved the church Ephesians 5:25. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her.
It is important to address the fact that you mentioned praying in Jesus' name. This is wonderful, as it is only through the name of Jesus that we have access to God. As it says in John 14:6 Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And in John 14:13-14 Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it. Continue to pray in Jesus' name and trust that God hears your prayers. God will never ignore the pleadings of a contrite heart.
We must rebuke the lies that you have believed about yourself due to the abuse. You are not a horrible person, and you do not deserve this treatment. God sees you as precious and beloved, worth dying for on the cross. It is not God's will for you to live in constant self-hatred and low self-esteem. Remember that God created you in His image Genesis 1:27, and that as a Christian, you are a new creation in Christ 2 Corinthians 5:17. Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new.
Regarding your fear of starting over, we encourage you to trust in God's plan for your life. God has a purpose and a plan for you, and He will provide the strength and courage you need to move forward. Remember that with God, all things are possible Matthew 19:26. But Jesus looking at them said to them, With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.
We strongly encourage you to seek godly counsel and support from your local church or Christian community. It is important to have a support system that can help you make wise decisions and provide practical assistance.
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our sister in Christ who is hurting and in need of Your divine intervention. Lord, You see the pain she is experiencing, and You know the depths of her suffering. We pray that You will bring healing and restoration to her heart and mind. Help her to see herself as You see her precious, beloved, and worth dying for on the cross.
Lord, we ask that You will give her the strength and courage to make wise decisions regarding her relationship. Help her to trust in Your plan for her life and to know that You have a purpose and a future for her. We pray that You will provide godly counsel and support for her during this difficult time.
We also pray for her mate, that You will convict his heart and bring him to true repentance. Lord, we ask that You will soften his heart and help him to see the error of his ways. We pray that You will bring healing and restoration to their relationship, if it is Your will.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Remember that God loves you and has a plan for your life. Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this difficult time. Stay strong in your faith and keep praying, as God hears your prayers and will answer in His perfect timing.
We are here for you, and we will continue to pray for you and your situation. Do not lose heart, for God is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you. Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.